anyone know how i can improve my social skills?

Question

ihaving trouble communicating with people.i communicate a little but i need improvement what should i do.

Answer 1

less time on here more time socialising !

Answer 2

Sports is one way to develop your social skills plus self-esteem. A lot of people I know who developed their personalities when they joined a sport. You could also try acting workshops. But basically, what you can do is put more a little effort in those little communications you make. Don't be afraid to open up a topic or make comments, or whatever depending on what you and the person are talking about. Just don't push yourself too much. Just try to calm down, listen to what the person is saying, ask questions, give your opinions, comments, etc. You can do it! I too had the same problems especially in high school. There are so many different types of people that I couldn't help but be intimidated by them. One day I just started to open myself up a bit, slowly, then later I didn't know that I was improving. I can now talk to any kinds of people though it's not that good. You can do it!

Answer 3

Most of the people I know that don't seem to fit in socially with others are the ones who come across ignorant. This can be because of shyness, or the fact they really are. Since most people talk socially about current events, I would try to read the newspaper everyday, or watch the news. This gives others the "impression" that you care about whats going on in the world, and you have some "knowledge". People look at shy people another way. Social animals view shy people as a challenge. Be up for the challenge by being knowledgeable. Rehearsing in front of the mirror was another good idea, plus be more observant of people who seem to be very sociable. I think that's the best way to learn to be sociable is by watching and learning. Joining a bowling League is another good way to interact with other people. Most people think you have to be a good bowler to join, but they don't realized you get a handicap added to your score.

Answer 4

In a group of people you could start off by introducing yourself and talk about current issues and maybe add in a little joke. If that doesn't work then another way, is to smile when you talk. Not a big smile but a small smile. It always works. Most importantly is that you have to feel comfortable and interested in the other person. If your interested in talking to them not only will you draw their attention but you may also draw in a crowd if your discussing about a pretty good topic, like abortion or politics.I hope this helped you out allot.

Good Luck ^_^

Answer 5

Get some workbooks on Active Listening Skills and do the exercises. People love to talk about themselves and get bored listening about others go on and on about themselves.

Give people "their space" -- in the U.S. that means standing at least 16" away from the other person.

How is your hygiene? Body odor, bad breath, smelling of cigarette smoke, greasy hair all put most folks off. Some people have good hygiene but their clothes (jackets, sweater, etc) reek. Be objective == ask others: What is it that drives people away?

Get involved in groups/activities that allow you to practice active listening skills. Volunteer, join a group that focuses on area that interests you, maybe a dancing group, hiking, reading, chess, whatever your interests are.

No one can please everyone. Be yourself, learn to accept that some will like you fine, others won't. Those that don't like you may find you too athletic, or too geeky, or too skinny or too fat. You have the right to dislike others too.

Answer 6

have u tried group teraphy? :)

or..

why dont you think about something you really like to do, a hobby or something. then, look for a group doing that, maybe a cooking or arts class, a reading club.. something like that.
you will start having something in common ^^

relax and enjoy :)
and dont be so hard with yourself, it's hard for all. The most someone speaks.. the most that person cant stand the silence and the attention himself. That's why silence needs to be filled for some people. But it's not wrong if you dont feel free to chat, I bet you do it a lot when u really want to ;)

Answer 7

Social skills is a 2-way concern, undergo in concepts. do no longer in basic terms communicate approximately your self yet make the hassle to ask approximately the different person to boot. Oh, and undergo in concepts the guidelines of appropriate etiquette. That looks to tutor people off.

Answer 8

Start reading. Improve your vocabulary, read a few etiquette books, and always talk with people on the level that they understand. People love to talk about themselves, so asking interesting questions and being a great listener is key.

Answer 9

Start off with a no-threatening situation like a church or social event and make it your goal to speak with one person. You can be perceived as social by saying very little so don't worry about what you have to say. People love to talk about themselves so instead of talking or worrying about talking, learn to ask questions and listen. The other person will give you plenty to talk about

Answer 10

Read newspaper or a book loundly (don't shout) before a mirror for 15-20 minutes daily, It will highly improve your speaking ability.

Answer 11

Practice Practice Practice.