2007-03-19 04:28:16 · 22 answers · asked by misbehave4me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
More details would be helpful but you have to consider your children in whatever you decide to do...Having said that,one day they will be off and doing their own thing and possibly not give you a second thought so don't dismiss the chance of real happiness for yourself..There is always compromise !!!
2007-03-19 04:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by trish b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on their age. If they are under 18, well you need to have some kind of compromise. If over then not really... There comes a time when you need to get back your life and identity. Some will say you made a committment to have kids, which is true, but not for the rest of their lives. We all are entitled to take back our lives, be loved have a relationship and they need to know we're human too. Kids grow up and leave home, they begin to have a life of their own which doesnt include you. If you have an open relationship with your children you should be able to sit and talk to them about what you want to do now. You dont need their consent, just that they know whats happening and that you are showing them the kind of respect you expect in return. Know this though... if they're over 18 there are somethings that you'd want to do that they feel they should be allowed to also. Only you can make that decision if you can deal with that i.e. boy/girlfriend staying the night. Communicate with them... you cant go wrong with that. Good Luck
2007-03-19 12:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seams like you can find some kind of balance between the two. If you find Love then by all means go for it. Having children should not hild you back. As long as your kids are happy and you are happy then whoever you meet should understand that you come as a package deal only(meaning you+kids)and if he thinks it would just be the two of you then he should move on to someone else. Most women over the age of 30 have kids, so guys are sort of used to meeting them and accepting the kids as well. It does take a special man to take your children under his wings and nurture, for that good luck
2007-03-19 11:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why your needs for love and happiness should ever conflict with your teenagers' needs.
I'm guessing there is some scenario where your kids don't like the idea of you having a relationship? Well it's not their needs being compromised here, but their desires and that's not the same thing.
Anyway, what kind of kid would deny their parent the love and happiness they want? Teenagers almost adults, it's about time they stop thinking the world revolves around them.
2007-03-20 08:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by - 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.
but neither should you put your own need for love and happiness above the needs of your children. unhappy parents are no good for kids, and unhappy kids are no good for parents :)
negotiation, compromise, finding a *win/win* situation, where everyone gets some of what they want... that's definitely possible with teenagers, if you talk to them honestly, and allow them to talk to you honestly.
but we really could do with some more information here...
2007-03-19 13:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yr kids should always come first.The guy you are with should no this.If they love you they should love your kids or be apart of there lives.You need to be there for your kids even they need you more then ever in there teenage years.yes you need to be happy.The kids want u to be happy so find the right guy and be happy.good luck..
2007-03-19 12:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by angela c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is because of a relationship you want with someone, then yes I think sometimes you should think of u. It may sound selfish to some, but we are only here once, why have a miserable life.
2007-03-19 11:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Vixx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean.. but you should also put yourself first in some cases. You deserve to be happy too.
2007-03-19 12:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should...teenage is not easy ..if the parents didn't take care of their teenage kids many bad things would happen to them especially if they r gurls .....but it doesn't mean to careless ur own needs ...it's important too...so act as friends it will work.....good luck
2007-03-19 11:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by batt00ta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you staying with a man for them....Dont do it, they know when something is wrong, they have eyes and ears...You have to have happiness in order to give it...Do what you feel in your heart is right....
2007-03-19 11:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋