Ok to start , I am 22 years old I have been married since I was seventeen and I have three children.
My husband thinks that our marriage is in good shape, and he will not listen to me when I tell him that I have not been happy in years.
He is the only one that works and makes all the money, He will not let me work or even leave the house without him.
Also, any ideas on how I could leave broke with nowhere to go with 3 kids?
I feel like I am stuck !!!!
2007-03-19 04:25:51 · 11 answers · asked by sillygirlie22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well....I dont think its write that your unhappy and you stay with him...i understand you have 3 children, but if your not satisfied then why would u stay with him?! You only live once, why not make it worth it?! let him know how u feel, and if he doesnt listen use a firm voice and he will know your being serious, because mayb all them other times he thought you were kidding and thats why he didnt listen to you....i understand why u say ur stuck, because you dont have a job, but if ur kids are old enough to care for one another then why not go out and get a job?!?! good luck! ;)
2007-03-19 04:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by JB. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you feel that you are stuck but you really need to work on this marriage with your husband. Try going to marriage counseling with him. Why wont he let you work and why is he so controlling? Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter and see what he has to say about it. If you want to leave then go stay with a family member or friend for now if need be. Also tell him the only way you will continue to stay in this marriage is if he seeks help with you for your marriage and that he needs to let you go out once in a while or something as well. tell him what you want and how you feel about things. If he does not listen or care then get out.
2007-03-19 04:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly girl. You sound like you're asking, "Should I stay unhappy in marriage?" No! You should get happy in your marriage. There is no such thing as "My husband won't let me." That is a myth, unless you're a Muslim woman in the Middle East. Are you chained to the radiator? Get out and find a job. Take your kids with you when you go to fill out employment applications if you must, but preferrably leave them with a neighbor or relative. Once you get employment, find childcare for them. Stop acting like a prisoner, and start working for yourself.
2007-03-19 04:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start by researching abuse. Seek out a womens shelter near your community. Speak to councilers and other profesionals. Look up all information on control and abuse. You dont have to be hit to be abused. You are young and in a difficult position. I was 26 with 2 kids and no job when I left my husband. My parents really helped me out a lot. Its not going to be an easy road ahead. Good luck!
2007-03-19 04:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN I AM 27 WITH 4 KIDS MARRIED A MONTH AFTER I TURNED 18 ONLY THING MY HUSBAND JUST DON'T CARE WHAT I DO . YOU FEEL STUCK B/C YOU WANT TO PROVIDE A PLACE FOR YOUR CHILDREN BUT AFRAID OF HOW I KNOW THIS ISN'T WHAT YOU ASKED BUT GOOD LUCK AND TAKE 1 SMALL STEP AT A TIME
2007-03-19 05:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by JEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay in your marriage. That's what you said when you said "for better or for worse, till death do you part." Especially when there are 3 kids involved. What you should also do is seek guidance from a professional marriage counselor. Go by yourself at first and take hubby with you later. There are also many good books dealing with this subject. One of which is a book by William Harley. It is called, "His needs, her needs" Good book. Buy it and leave it around for hubby to see.
2007-03-19 04:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're never stuck!!!
If you are unhappy, then leave. Go to your parents, your friends, even a womans shelter... any where you feel you need to... til you can get on your feet.
You are NEVER stuck in a situation, there is NO final answer. You just need to get past your fear of leaving, and you'll be fine.
:L)
Good luck to you!
2007-03-19 04:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got married at 17 and have 3 children. Your screen name says it all.
2007-03-19 04:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first answer was the best one ---you are never stuck. not nowadays ---too many places for you to go and take the kids---he doesn't have to be abusive for you to go there. (although sounds controlling/manipulative) best to get out if you've spent all your energy trying to change the situation-there's nothing left for you to do!
2007-03-19 04:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave i know it is easier said then done but you have to know that you are worth something not just for your self but your kids don't say that you are stuck because you are not it will be hard for while but if you really wont to leave you do it and everything will work out for the best
2007-03-19 04:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋