I've been with my bf for 2 months(im 21,hes24)I am his first gf in 2 yrs(his ex cheated on him & was badly hurt this)At first he was always wanting to see me,we live 30 min away and only i have a car.In the first couple weeks he took me to meet his parents and his friends and i was very happy with this new relationship.Lately hes been acting distant.Now we barely see each other and when we do,we are either at his parents house or out with his friends.I feel neglected & like he doesnt care about me i've brought his up with him b4 and he just tells me i shouldnt feel like that and to just "chill" and that hes not going anywhere.When we are together he is very attentive and tells me how much he enjoys hanging out with me,but then I dont see him for 4 or 5 days.i've noticed he drinks alot.I want to bring this up again b/c it's REALLY bothering me.I dont want to break up and I dont want to play gamesWhy do u think hes acting like this?how should i handle this?he wants to know wats wrong!!
2007-03-19 04:22:40 · 5 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
has nothing to do with you.
he's probabably having life problems. tell'em you really dont' care for the drinking but he is of legal age so if he chooses to stop great if not it's his choice. if he's telling you he like being with you then be happy not everyone has a relationship were the guy tells the girl that.
tell him you dont' always want to be at his parents house or with his friends when you two spend time together. that you want some alone time to do what ever.
g'luck
2007-03-19 04:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he just needs some space. Guys are different. They dont feel the constant need to be near you, to feel the love. That is more of a girl thing. My guy is also somewhat similar. At first I was worried but now I know that it is just a guy thing. Give him some space of his own and DONT constantly obsess about him. That wont do you any good. In fact, the only thing that works is let them be and start ignoring them. Then guys will eventually come towards you. Start developing some other hobby and dont give him too much attention. Trust me if he likes you, then he will come around. Regarding his drinking, I would just tell him right up front and see what happens. But reg the attention part, first establish if he really likes you. If he does then just let him be.
2007-03-19 11:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit back and let him tell you whats going on. He sounds like hes under the normal stresses of life. But, be careful, if you want to keep him be attentive without too many questions. He might not even have the answers himself. Let him come to you and let him know that he can whenever he is ready.
2007-03-19 11:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by tami m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I say anything I just want to let you know I am using my dad's computer and I am a girl.But my advice is that you've got to really sit down and discuss things and the way they are and you have got to get EVERYTHING out of your mind and off your shoulders about everything you are concerned about and if he is not understanding and continues (I know you said you don't want to break-up)you should just move on.Let him down easy(Only if this continues)
Because you never know what will happen.P.S.Talk things out calmly.Good Luck!I Wish you all the best!
2007-03-19 11:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his drinking bothers you, you'd better let him know. There is no need to keep it to yourself and suffer.
2007-03-19 11:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋