so my boyfriend and I were best friends through high school and started dating our senior year and now have been dating for a year. When is too soon to get married? should we move in together first?
2007-03-19 04:19:57 · 11 answers · asked by osty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are both in college right now. He's in a two year program and will graduate spring 2008 where I am in a four year program and will graduate spring 2010
2007-03-19 04:28:26 · update #1
Since you have only been dating a year, I would live separate for a little while to give yourself time to develop skills independently. If you need to save money, find roommates to live with instead. If in a year from now everything is still going well with you guys, consider moving in together.
If you plan to go to college (this is a good plan!), wait to get married until after you have your degree. In all honesty, college changes most people and I would want to experience everything I can before settling down. You have plenty of time to be a wife!
2007-03-19 04:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You absolutely should live together for about a year first dispite past traditions. This will let you see how being together 24 hours a day will affect you. You will see each other at your worst times. If you can deal with being together all the time and when each other is moody you will be able to transition into marriage so easliy. Also after you have been lioving togetehr for a while fo things you would do if you were married. Such as, combine your bank accounts into one, be on the same car insurance policy. The reason a lot of marriages don't last that were rushed into is because once they had to do Husband and Wife things they getshocked and dont know how to react to it.
2007-03-19 11:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by ...Melissa... 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
YES YOU'RE BOTH TOO YOUNG. Stay in school, get your own individual apartments, continue dating and having "sleepovers" if you want (always practice safe sex) and then after you graduate and you both still feel the same in 3-4 years then by all means..........get engaged first, find a place to live together, and then get married! Otherwise, you're both going to make huge mistakes because you're too young to know any better.
2007-03-19 11:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get married when you both have jobs sufficient to support yourselves (or each other should one lose their job), and be able to live independent of other people.
If you're planning on going to college, then you should wait till after you finish (I know of a number of marriages that were strained to the breaking point because one or both were attending college).
In the end, it is going to come down to you two deciding. Frankly, marriage is huge and maybe a year isn't enough time...maybe it is. But you have to be able to support yourselves first and foremost.
2007-03-19 11:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well my boyfriend and I got promised, and we absolutely love it. He gave me the most gorgeous promise ring. We promised that we would get enaged/married when we both finished college. Maybe you want to do that, it's a lot easier, and then you'll be able to enjoy your wedding. I'd say if/when you do get engaged, definitely move in together first, I think everyone should live together before getting married. Hope I helped! Good luck!
2007-03-19 11:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kim H 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you two are happy and love each other and want to spend your whole life together, you can get married when ever you want. you don't need no ones permission to get married. talk it over with him and set a date that you both want. good luck.
2007-03-19 11:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may seem like you have it all together - when in fact, you are both young and have no idea yet how and where your life will change and take you. if you marry too soon - you will continue to mature and change throughout your twenties--and you may end up growing apart ---live your lifea little first!! :)
2007-03-19 11:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married when you are ready to. Do not move in together until you are married.
2007-03-19 11:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When the two of you feel ready........and can fully support yourselves...
moving in or married comes from how committed you want your realtionship to be......others can't make these choises for you.....
2007-03-19 11:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you two love each other and want to spend rest of life together then its time to tie knot.
2007-03-19 14:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋