So lately he's been waking me up at like 4a.m. wanting me to be with him... and Im tired. I have to get up at 7 a.m. And IF I dont get up with him.... he starts taking care of himself while Im still in bed. The whole bed shakes.... and it keeps me awake anyways. I love him, and I want to please him.... But why Cant he ever be in the mood when Im still awake??? What should I do?
2007-03-19 04:15:39 · 8 answers · asked by canneverhavethis111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him! He probably doesnt know the bed shakes that bad.
2007-03-19 04:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As unromantic as it sounds, you need to schedule when it's going to happen. That way there's no question as to when. Yeah, it sounds horrible, but if you know that this afternoon (or whenever) is the time, then you can flirt with each other thoughout the day (by way of notes, emails, or phone messages).
As far as the "taking care of himself and shaking the bed" goes, he needs to get his @$$ out of the bed and do that somewhere else. It's fine if he needs to "relieve" whatever, but he doesn't need to wake you up to do it. That's just inconsiderate, and a bit selfish - okay, a lot selfish. He doesn't want you waking him up does he?
I think you two can find a time period that fits both, and one where no one has to lose sleep.
Good luck!!
2007-03-19 04:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok..read carefully!
If you value your marriage at all, something has to change. I found myself in a similar situation for 2 years. I have now been seperated for 7 months.
The bed shaking without you is the least of your problems. You will eventually grow apart.
My advice... Your marriage comes first, everything else can take a back seat.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 07:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might start going to bed a little earlier a few times a week, then if he gets a little randy at 4AM you won't be too tired.
Also, if the bed shakes (and I'm sorry, but I just busted out laughing when I read that), y'all need to buy a new AND larger mattress and box foundation. Once my wife and I upgraded to king size we never looked back!
2007-03-19 07:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go with the flow my husband and i work different shifts so when he comes home from work and I'm still getting the kids ready for school when they leave we do it then i go to work until we can figure out something else we just go with it it is working for us we do have one night to our self on the weekend if he is keeping you up by shaking the bed you might as well get it
2007-03-19 04:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take a nap,then jump his bones at 4 am,set a side time to get some action,or he might look else ware.
2007-03-19 04:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by walterferguson2226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loose you buttons and be with him anytime
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you will have a lot of time to rest in a grave.. enjoy your time now
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if you won't be with him - someone else would be happy to
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the real problem is when you want, but he can't
2007-03-19 04:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock that crap off, he is married. Yuck, if my hubbie did that I would kick him out.
2007-03-19 04:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋