I think it proves that the woman cares more about getting married than who she marries. A fancy wedding is the life goal of a lot of women. Being in love with a soul mate is less important to them.
2007-03-19 04:15:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If a man is absolutely against marriage (and/or children, for that matter), that is something he should let a woman know rather early on in a relationship.
If you really love someone, you don't need to be married to prove it. However, if he says he wants to get married one day then strings you along for a few years, what he is really saying is, "I want to get married one day, but not to you". This means the girl should move on.
2007-03-19 04:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think those women are smart. They want a committment and if your "true soul mate" can't do that......I have news for you, they are not your soul mate.
Soul Mates know they will be together forever so why shouldn't they celebrate by getting married.
I don't think that women dumping men who don't want to get married is stupid...it's smart....why waste time. It's not the fancy wedding that's important. Perhaps they'd like to raise a family and do it the proper way....after getting married.! It's better for the children to have a stable environment. Have you seen how the kids from the last 20 years of having one parent who works too hard to support them, to watch over them, have turned out. Crime is up and kids have no respect for anyone of authority.
Your girlfriends are smart. If you want to remain single....so be it. But they are not breaking up with their boyfriends over a fancy white dress. There's a lot more to it.
2007-03-19 04:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by NewGrandma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this at all. Sounds like a boyfriend who has commitment issues. The whole "milk and a cow" thing. If he can't commit to her, and she wants to commit to him, then this relationship is going nowhere. I've heard some of the much younger set use the excuse, "Marriage is a bourgeois institution meant to enslave people." I've also heard, "Marriage is just a piece of paper." In both cases, why the fear?
If a woman wants to get married, and her boyfriend does not, then either end it now or ratchet the relationship down a notch or three. Ditto if it is a guy and she won't commit.
2007-03-19 07:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy should've never made her wait that long in the first place. And if he really cared for her and didnt want to lose her, he would have just gone for the big plunge. I dont think it has anything to do with a fancy wedding, most women are happy with something small. Its a committment to eachother, and if the guy cant make the committment, and the girl wants it... Then she has every reason to leave.
2007-03-19 04:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
marriage doesn't end after the "fancy wedding"...that is not what marriage is all about.
some people have goals and plans in life, and some of them include marriage as a goal. two people wouldn't be compatible if their goals were so different.
conversely, there are many people who don't have marriage in mind.
before you get "serious" about a person, find out what their priorities in life might be... if they are vastly different, it's probably no use continuing the relationship.
just my two cents.
2007-03-19 04:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree at all. You must be referring to a specific situation? We might need more details. I think it sounds like the woman hasn't found what she is looking for in a man. Why get married just to get divorced?
2007-03-19 04:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are right to want a commitment. Why spend years with a person who doesn't want to marry you? I wouldn't. If he's really your soul mate, why wouldn't he want to marry you?
2007-03-19 04:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel eyes is dead on..........its the commitment aspect...most women do not care for huge weddings anyway and realize the wedding is just a "day"....
2007-03-19 04:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your soul mate then why he wud not want to marry you???
2007-03-19 08:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋