the father of my children works for cash to avoid paying his child support. For the past two years the attorney general's office has tried to serve him papers for enforcement. Which he has avoided. He has recently had different people contact me to drop the child support. He and his wife had both had my children to ask me to drop the child support. I recently had to contact the police because there had been threats. they mentioned to my oldest about getting rid of me. i'm lucky if he pays 20 dollars once every 3 to 6 months. I provide medical and dental insurance and i have to pay all out of pocket expenses. He owes over 30,000 in child support. I even contacted one of those support kids and they haven't done anything. when he does see his kids he doesn't buy anything. I buy my kids clothes and shoes. I've been supporting my children on my own. i'm a single mother and because I work i don't qualify for any assistance. He's avoided paying child support and providing any medical support
2007-03-19 04:07:24 · 15 answers · asked by haj2007 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You cannot "drop" child support if you want to. Child support is a legal obligation owed to your children. Unfortunately, as you well know, when it is not paid the obligation falls to the custodial parent. You should continue to pursue the child support action unless you truly believe that you are in danger. If you do, then you should take action to protect yourself and your family including contacting the proper authorities. What they are doing is illegal. It is called intimidation and you should meet with your local prosecutor or district attorney to stop the conduct. Get a restraining order and call the police if they show up anywhere near your house or job. You shouldn't have to live in fear for seeking what is legally yours.
2007-03-19 04:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!! Report all this to the police NOW! Press charges for harrassment, and if your oldest child is old enough and comfortable enough to talk about it, the possibility of planning and/or attempting murder come to mind. Make sure and tell the attorney general about all this too. You need a protective order, talk to a private attorney about it. If you cannot afford one, call legal aid in your area or contact the court to see if there is a separate pro bono program in your area. As a last resort, call every family law attorney in town and outright ask if they do pro bono work.
2007-03-19 11:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well lets see he owes you 30,000 in back child support, now think about this for a second..... is his threats for real? do you think he can do it? or do you think he will pay someone to do it for him for way less than what he owes you? is it worth finding out? and will he ever pay up regardless? OK then you have your answer oh and Radio Shack does sell a phone device that can record all phone calls that's a fact i tried to use it on my xwife for proof of her having sex with minors but in my states laws it is inadmissible unless the other party knows your recording
2007-03-22 02:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is threatening you, you have the right to get a restraining order. If he is saying these threats to your children, you can also have that restraining order extended to them.
When you go to court for this, if he doesnt show up, then you win. Period. When he goes to jail for violating the restraining order, or when he shows up to court to fight it, he can be served with the papers for enforcement. Then, the judge can order him to pay, if he claims he doesnt have a job(and pretends the one off the books doesnt exist) , the judge can order him to get a job(on the books), and if he doesnt, he will be in contempt of court.
If you can get proof that he is working, you can also go to the IRS (tax evasion is how they got the mobsters you know) or tell his employer that. Perhaps then you can convince the employer to cooperate with the constable that is trying to serve him!!!
2007-03-19 12:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anah B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough as it sounds, it may be pointless to continue, although you should. youve done the hard work so far, and youre still here, doing a great job. im a stepfather of 2 from different fathers, and the same deal w/ both. not too the extent of yours, but around 3k per. my wife and i dont even hold our breath about support. just dont press it anymore. all its gonna do is stress you out. just keep doing the good job you have at taking care of them, and hopefully someday the kids will realize how important you have been, and always will be, and dismiss their father. good luck to you and your family.
2007-03-19 11:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by kevinc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a lawyer. Don't give me that baloney about not being able to afford it; your county legal aid society can help you obtain that sort of representation at very reasonable cost.
DO NOT drop your demands for support: you are RESPONSIBLE for your kids' welfare, and unless YOU are willing to FIGHT for it, you are FAILING them!
The death threats should have put his butt in jail. So should non-payment of child support: my OWN son made that mistake, and after the judge put him in the county lockup for a weekend, and then told him "I can and I will jail you UNLESS you make those child support payments!", my son has been making his payments. He wouldn't listen to his child's mother, he wouldn't listen to me, he wouldn't listen to Social Services - but he D AMN sure listens to the judge! Your ex owes thirty grand? (!) HE needs to be hammered! Get yourself down to Social Services and pound on desks and kick butt until they DO go after him and FORCE him to do what's right!
2007-03-19 11:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just manipulating you. Don't drop the case...if you do then he wins!!! He has a legal and moral obligation to support those kids. Hang is parts out to dry honey!!!
2007-03-19 12:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely NOT! Child support is for the kids! He is suppose to support his child. KIDS COME FIRST!
Hall his butt into court. They can garnish his wages if he refuses to pay.
2007-03-19 11:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell no dont drop anything keep reporting him to the police, he is going to have to pay no matter what in the long run
2007-03-19 11:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't you dare my ex did same thing and i recorded every conversation you do not have to tell them that you are recording and then when you got to court that is all the evidence you need
2007-03-21 11:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by JENNIFER H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋