Most of the time I tell him everything...when my ex calls he asks me what i am doing, where i am going, who with etc. We have a son together so we have to be civil...I still care alot for him and dont want to hurt his feelings but I know I shouldnt tell him everything about my business...why do I this, and how can I stop?
2007-03-19 04:06:17 · 13 answers · asked by Shanni1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when he ask you just tell him that you are out taking care of business. And that since you two are no longer married that it doesnt matter to him what business you are taking care unless it is dangering your child. But I dont think you would anything like that. He still wants to know that he has a hold on you and that way he knows that he doesnt have to worry bout you moving on. Sure you may date and go out but how long at a time? a month or two? This is so his way of keeping control over you, when he calls till you can the "backbone" let him get the answering machine. The only time that you two should really have any type of lengthy conversation is when it comes to the child. He will eventually realize that he has no ontrol over you anymore. And he will stop.
2007-03-19 04:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to stop things like that. Just because you have a son together and thankfully you guys are civil; you don't have to tell him anything you don't want him to know. If he asks "I've been trying to get ahold of you , where've you been"? Simply state "I've been lots of places", and if he persists, just state to him it's truly not his business and go from there. Neither one of you owes each other an explanation =) If you're having men problems, don't bring those to his attention, he may feed off of that and you don't want that, you know?
2007-03-19 04:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you still care a lot about him, but you don't think it's good for you two to share certain information about each other. Tell him that when he slips into an area that you want to keep private that you're just going to say, "private (in your nicest, sincerest voice)," from now on. Tell him this isn't to hurt his feelings, but to spare both of yours.
2007-03-19 04:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try being more terse with him or more elusive. If he asks what you are doing tell him you are going out when he asks with who tell him with friends. Or you can try being honest with him tell him you are not comfortable telling him these things. Tell him you at least for now need to be left alone, and for now the only things he should be asking is in reference to your child.
Though everything he asks you that you've mentioned can be in reference to your child. Does he want to make sure his child is being brought up in a good environment or is it more the fact that he wants to know about you?
2007-03-19 04:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off...it's none of his business what you do in your personal life. It's okay to try to remain friends, but if this is a problem for you, tell him to please limit the conversation to the topic of your son. You may do what you do out of a sense of guilt. Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind. Sounds like he has trouble letting go too. Good Luck.
2007-03-19 04:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by The Oldest Man In The World 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you do it because it is comfortable talking with someone you have a history with; you can stop doing it by just talking about your son or the weather....
2007-03-19 04:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's intimidating you. Screen his calls. Only speak to him where it concerns your son. Nothing else.
2007-03-19 04:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like someone needs to GROW UP.
2007-03-19 04:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you do this out of habit & wanting to please your ex.
You need to let it be known that your relationship is over & you dont answer to anyone.
Feel good about yourself & dont try to please your ex or make others feel better.
Work on making you feel better about life.
2007-03-19 04:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋