would you tell him? i want the baby to have a daddy, but he is a druggy, and even when he doesnt drink his temper isd out rageous. he is 18 years old and i dont want to interfere with his life even though i love him a lot and we used to go out for like ever. but i am really young and i dont know what to do i am not positive that i am pregnat, but if i am im screwed b/c my parents would kick me out. i have so much goin on right now and have no one to talk to and i hate admitting it but i am actually scared. please tell me what i should do.
2007-03-19 03:57:42 · 12 answers · asked by sexy southern chick 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yesi would tell him bcuz he layed down wit u n you shouldnt b teh only one payin the price. and if he loves u like you love him then he shouldnt get mad. and if he doesnt claim the child bcuz he's gettin married den you should get a test n that will decide
2007-03-19 04:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have a 16 year old daughter and if it were her, I'd have to suggest either adoption or abortion. It's a terrible situation all the way around.
1) YOU'RE YOUNG!!!!!
2) He's marrying someone else
3) He has drug induced anger issues
4) He's in prison.
What does that tell you about the role model he'll make as a father and the trust as a boyfriend, husband or significant other. I would die if my daughter got into this kind of relationship to start with, but if she were pregnant, I'm all for Pro-Choice and some things are just better left undone! Your local health department can help with your options and it's confidential!! No matter what you choose, good luck and raise your standards for boyfriends. You deserve better than this!
2007-03-19 15:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that your parents would kick you out?
If homeboy is about to get married, you should just go ahead and either have the baby and take care of it on your own or give it up for adoption-and where I do NOT suggest it, it is your legal choice to have an abortion.(Really don't suggest it, but it is your legal right.) He doesn't sound like the kind of daddy you want around your child and sometimes, I am sorry, but sometimes children are better off without their natural fathers. Your dad, if he is a good dad, can be your child's example on how a man is supposed to be.
Go ahead and go to Planned Parenthood and get checked out and talk about your options with the staff there.
Take care.
2007-03-19 11:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u should deffanitly tell the guy it would be wrong not to but i think if you are very young you should maybe put the baby up for adoption. I mean if you think about it if you really love someone you want whats best for them.But if you do keep the child love it like no one else could and try to stay in school so you can provide a good life for your baby. Also you really must tell your parents yea i know you dont want to but if they really care, they may be mad at first but they will help you make it through this. I really hope this helps you.
2007-03-19 15:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by hunny_bunn101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good situation at all, If I was you I would get an abortion although I do not believe in abortions. This is a situation where it would be best or you can also give the child up for adoption.
You are young, you have plenty of time to have another child under better conditions, this is not a good one at all. Please do the right thing.. Having a child is not easy, I have 4 so I know what I am talking about. Good Luck to you!!!!
2007-03-19 11:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to make sure you are pregnant and if so you will need to make some plans to either keep the baby or put it up for adoption. As for the Father you really need to leave him alone and move on... you can always find someone who will love you and a child as their own. The guy will not help you out and you will not be able to collect child support for him in jail and when he comes out of jail.. I am sure he will run straight back to the drugs.. most of the time that is what happens. You seem to be really smart and you already know that he is trouble. Support him from a distance and hope and pray that he will get his life on track soon. He is really young as well and needs some positive reconstruction in his life. If you are honest with your parents about everything.. they will be mad and upset.. but I am sure you can work something out. You will need to get on assistance if you are pregnant. Medicaid and WIC can help you out. I am hoping all will work out with you!!
2007-03-19 11:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would give my head a shake and wonder what I was thinking...second of all I wouldn't stress about it till I knew for sure that I was pregnant. I would also tell teh guys future wife if I did find out that Iwas pregnant so she could move on and not get stuck with a loser. Then I would sit down and think did I really want this baby. I would put it up for adoption and grow up.
2007-03-19 11:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think would be best for your child.............measure your options. Some may say it is not fair for you not to let him know but do you think he can change and be a good thing for you and the baby. can he offer support to you in your time of need or will he put you through stress you may not be able to handle right now. remember as the father of this child if he is unfit your child will be affected. He needs to show a change, become responsible and be able to support you in order for this child to be happy. If you are pregnant and your family abandons you then who do you have to turn to for support? You will definitely need support because pregnancy is a trying time and you really don't want to be stressed out during your pregnancy.
2007-03-19 11:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by redz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having grown up without a father, my dad was a heroin addict, sometimes it's best to grow up without one. (My step-sibblings, who grew up with my dad, are all druggies and in/out of jail ALL the time.)
My mom emphasized education and made many sacrifices for me; I am the only person in my family to graduate from high school. I also have a college education and have been teaching for 11 years.
In my experience, who needs a dad/sperm donor, when a great mom will do! (I would avoid this guy at all costs!)
Best of luck and take care,
Mon :-)
2007-03-19 11:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by santan_cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you should do is stop worrying about something that you are not sure about.. You don't even know if you are pregnant, so why are you stressing about it?
The next thing you need to do is stop having sex with losers.. Why would you want to risk bringing a baby into this world with a POS like that?
2007-03-19 11:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Legs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest I am all for children having a father figure but a good one not the one you are talking about. but plese still tell him you cant change him.
2007-03-19 12:24:29 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋