I am getting so frustrated with him. He is 32 years old; I am 26. He gets very upset with me whenever I am in social situations and not as friendly and outgoing as he deems sataisfactory. I had a bad day last Sunday and wasn't talking very much and now he is virtually ignoring me. He says he needs A BREAK from me! This happened several months ago, and we barely spoke at all for a few months! I'm getting so exasperated! What should I do about this? Am I being unreasonable/is he?
2007-03-19 03:49:01 · 22 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First off the term friend and conditional do not belong in the same sentence.
If he is a true friend he would not be so selfish.
We all have are moods and one of the things we look for from friends is the validation that it is okay to have an off day.
I have periods of time where my friends and I do not get to see each other as often as we like because of the demands of our work and other commitments.
We stay friends because we love each other and enjoy each others company every chance we get.
Your supposed best friend needs to grow up and not be so selfish.
If he wants Suzy Cream Cheese tell him to buy a Barbie, because no one is cheery all the time.
2007-03-26 07:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with your friend and find out what is really going on. There could be an event going on in his life that he is not very happy about. Looks like you are at your wit's end. Just tell it like it is to him and be open and honest about the situation. If all doesn't go well, at least you know who your true friend is. In the meantime, continue to socialize and meet new people. Don't worry about him too much. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-03-19 03:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you have trouble socializing (or just don't care to as much as he does) because he may have trouble understanding where you're coming from and think you're just being a snob (not saying you are; I completely understand because I feel the same way as you do). But anyway, I would say wait for him to contact you but if he doesn't, you could write him a letter or email letting him know you didn't mean anything by not being social. This is a big misunderstanding you are both hurt by. The key is to both not take your not being social, nor his reaction to it, so personally
2007-03-19 12:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know this isn't a true friend. Someone who is really your friend will understand your good days and bad days, and accept you as you are socially.
I think you should take this opportunity to break away permanently and make some new friends. You don't have to be rude about it, be polite and cordial but you need to start distancing yourself emotionally from him as this is destructive to you. Then you'll be more in a frame of mind to move on.
2007-03-19 03:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ronnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in every relationship; romantic, friendship , even family, you have to evaluate whether or not it is a healthy for you , are you gaining anything from this involvement? if not then just let it go. this may seem difficult at first but in the long run you will be happier, you may always care about him , but you will learn to be without him. hang in there . it will get better , you don't have to say goodbye , just see yah later.until you learn how to appreciate me, and no you are not being unreasonable
2007-03-26 18:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by farra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your best friend, I'd hate to see your worst.
Try to figure out why you seem so desparate to retain this non-fullfililng friendship. Then get out and move on.
The loss would be his, only he doesn't sound clever enough to figure that out.
2007-03-26 06:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to boost your self esteem. You should not be expending any energy of "friends" like this. This person shouldn't even qualify as a friend to you. Re-evaluate and move on.
2007-03-19 03:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
look dont get very hype about things calm down and give him some time but dont ignore him .....all he wants is a bit of your time which you are probably not able to give him ....try and explain him even your conditions and that even you face ups and down....if he is a worthy chum he will try and understand you and will give you your space and time....all the best hope things get alright!
2007-03-19 04:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by khushboo s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him honey. He is playing with your mind. Time to make new friends and move on with your life. Its too short to be messy with people who just mess you up all the time. Be happy and best of luck to you.
2007-03-19 03:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times, when people say "I need a break" they mean "I don't want to spend so much time with you anymore."
So....Go ahead with your life. It's your friend's decision to distance himself from you...You can't control other people's behaviour.
Take care.
2007-03-26 06:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋