We will be married 25 years next year. Diabetes runs on his dad and mother's sides. He weighs about 250 lbs. What do I do? Just sit and watch him kill himself? Also, I have epilepsy so I know what a seizure is like. It scares me. He doesnt think I care. I have asked him to gpo to the doctor for a christmas gift or birthday gift. Why is he doing this?Doesnt he love his wife and children?
2007-03-19 03:47:45 · 16 answers · asked by julie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How's your life insurance? You need it, and he'll need a physical to get it. You can also withold sex, saying you afraid for his health and can't risk it until he gets checked out.
2007-03-19 03:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not ask him, you need to tell him, and tell him why. Sit down, and have a heart to heart. Ask him not to do it for himself, ask him to do it for you. You have been married 25 years, and you want to experience another 25. You take your car in to get a tune up and oil changed every so often, so it doesn't break down, right? The human body is no different. There may be nothing wrong with him, but it will put your mind at ease if he would go in for you, and have the Dr's verify that.
I am the same way, every time I go to the Dr.s I pay a whole lotta cash, and leave feeling the same, with no answers as to what the cause or solution of the ailment is.....only a few "we could try this's"
2007-03-19 04:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he'd like to spend the rest of his life in a nursing home because even you're his wife, you ARE NOT obligated to care for him for the rest of his life.
I agree w/ the house call answer. See if your doctor is willing to do this. Or, just drive to the hospital. Tell him that you are looking for something specific at the gift shop and have him come in with you. Then, march him right to the ER or urgent care to have a doctor look at him and run some very neccessary tests.
2007-03-19 04:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have anything to do with the love he feel for his wife and kids. Men will be men, what that mean is that my husband fell off a roof onto his shoulder on a concert walkway and wouldn't go see the doctor. I just think that they (men) think they are being less of a man.
However, you have a serious issue of diabetes running in your family. Sit down with him and with no distraction look him right in the eye. Tell him that you made an appointment for him to go to the doctor. Go with him if he doesn't want to go. Maybe he is scare of finding out the results. Good luck.
2007-03-19 04:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very bad idea. My father refused to go to the doctor and he had a light stroke and passed out and was taken to the hospital. His main problem was high blood pressure, something that could have easily been controlled had he gone to the doctor annually. Since diabetes runs in your husband's family combined with his weight, he needs a physical exam. He could be a walking time bomb and he might not be a lucky as my father. I think he is probably afraid that something would be found that would change his lifestyle, but not going might change it even more. I don't think his love is at issue; the issue is fear. He needs a physical exam!
2007-03-19 04:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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If you think you have diabetes i think you should have a checkup and speak with your doctor just in case.
2016-02-16 17:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cathie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you care and are very concerned about his health and well being and that you do not want to be a widow and that you love him so much and want to spend alot more time with him in this life. yes he loves you but he is scared to see a doctor for some reason... Offer to go to the doctors with him and see if this helps at all... You cannot force him to go but you can hope and pray that he does... Good luck to you.
2007-03-19 04:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's scared of the doctor, it also sounds like it's definitely time for a check up. Talk to him about how scared you are that he is not taking care of himself and that you want him around for another 25 years. Don't fight with him, just keep encouraging him.
2007-03-19 03:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it runs in his family and he weighs 250 you can bet he has type II diabetes by now. Here's the scary part. If left untreated, he will develop diabetic nephropathy (kidney disease) which shows no signs of illness...until your kidneys fail.
If his urine is unusually foamy, that means he is excreting protein, which is a symptom of diabetic nephropathy.
He needs to get his fat *** to the doctor for a checkup.
2007-03-19 03:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Pipe Grampa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment at a doctor's office, take him out to lunch and on the way back from lunch, just drive him right to the doctor's office. Tell him you're doing it because you love him.
2007-03-19 03:52:31 · answer #11 · answered by MonkeyMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋