What would you think?

Question

This is what me and my father realtionship is like and I find something wrong with it:

-He has five kids (inculding me) and see 4/5 of them but wont come see me. That last time he did was last year and I didnt remember seeing him before that for like about 10 years or so

-He doesnt want me or anyone else to recongize him as my dad

-He calls me all the time on my house phone when I am not there, but when my mom tells him I am there he doesnt want to talk...

-He claims he wants to spend time with me but never tries to arrange things

-I never get to talk to him and when I do it's on the phone and we are intrupted about twenty million (exgratting but you get the point) times by others and dont get to talk for more than 5 to ten minutes

-He was in the library and so was I but wouldnt even come say hi to me or anything

-He always watches me on the DL but never comes up to me in person

does anyone else find something wrong with this? if so, what can I do to make the situation bette

I'm thirteen, the 3 of 5

Answer 1

sweetie yes this is wrong.could you talk to him and tell him how you feel like you posted here,and tell him that you want a relationship with him, i hope it all works out for you this is so sad.i wish you the best and good luck

Answer 2

My "father" and I have a similar relationship. I have two kids (ages two years and two months) and he hasn't met them. Not because I don't want him too but because he has made no effort. I tried for years to make a relationship where there was none and I finally gave up. He calls every once in a while but I don't sweat it. I figure if he wants to be a part of my life it is his turn to try. Don't let him be a drain on your life, he is a negative influence and you don't deserve that even if he is your dad.

Answer 3

First of all, I'm sure it was nothing you did. Some parents, whether they mean to or not, play favorites. But that doesn't make it right. My relationship with my dad wasn't much better. I tried everything I could to get him to love me, but with no success. I finally gave up. He passed away about 5 years ago and even though our relationship wasn't that great, i miss him so much. I had to tell myself that he loved me in his own way, just not the way I wanted....i'm still telling myself that.

Good Luck

Answer 4

This happened to me & my father when I was younger. Try suggesting to your mother that you would like to see a counselor to cope & assist you with not having your father around, and maybe they can explain his behavior. Then when you are ready and strong enough, you can get a court order to see if your dad will come and actually visit you, and maybe even come too counseling to work out your relationship.

Answer 5

Whether he likes it or not YOU ARE HIS CHILD! If I was you, I would confront him regardless if it is in private or public and make him explain himself. Then tell him exactly how you feel about the type of crappy behavior he has displaying to you and about you!
My heart aches for you! I hope that this will help or some of the other advice others have given!

Answer 6

Ask to meet him somewhere,i.e. mall or somewhere for something to eat and be real---- ask what is it about u that keeps him away. Why all the DL stuff? Ru his first child? I think he has problems and nobody should deny their child no excuse will do!!!! Keep trying no matter what he is still ur father and he can't take that back!!!!

Answer 7

It is a strange relationship that a father would not recongnize his daughter. Very unusual. I would suggest confronting him with your feelings and asking why this is how he beaves. Finding out the answer my also require you and he meeting with a counselor to sort things out.

Answer 8

if my dad treated me lyk that i wouldnt want anything 2 do with him and if he didnt want 2 c me then thats him missing out.

my real father is dead so sorry if i came off sort of rude. but my dad (the man who calls me his child even tho him and my mom arent 2getha anymore) has 15 children and even takes care of me. i call him my dad bcuz my real dad was sort of lyk yours and we never talked so i stopped calling him dad n realized my mom's ex loved me more then my real dad then thats his problem when i dont care about him anymore

Answer 9

This brings tears to my eyes to read this, you poor thing. :( I am sorry that your 'father' is treating you this way. I don't know how old you are, but when you feel ready, I think that you need to confront your dad about his behavior. Please, he is being immature the way that he is acting! Also, talk to your mother about it.

Be strong :)