If a man is with someone and the wife gf or
her to be husband looks at a nacked woman
on the internet pictures and hids it and does it and not openly, is that also called cheating?
I found the pictures of a woman on the net that my to be husband was looking at and he got really up set with me and told me that I didn't need to watch every thing he was doing.
It really hurt me and made me feel nasty and shamed of my self.
I'm not bad looking and I don't put my body on the net for all to see, not even if I was to get paid for it.
this is really bothering me and I just need help with it,
can someone tell me what you think,
and put it this way to, what if it was your wife looking at men, or your husband looking at nacked women,
how would it make you feel?
talk to me please.
PS sorry if i miss spelled anything.
2007-03-19 03:26:50 · 21 answers · asked by DENISE 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Your husband is being unfaithful because he is seekigng other women to be the object of his sexual expression.
He may not be physically doing anything, but you have to ask yourself....if he could would he....looking at pictures of other naked women says he would cheat if given the chance because he is not respecting your feelings.
Just because it's considered "normal" does not make it right. A man's wife should be the object of his sexual expression. Period.
2007-03-19 03:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would bother me too much unless it was an actual person that they were communicating, but if it were a porn site or something of that nature then I wouldn't be too concerned.. men are just like that.. however, in my opinion, if he had nothing to hide than he wouldn't have gotten mad.. he would just tell you that he enjoys looking at naked women.. then again I haven't been in this situation, so if the tables were turned.. I might feel differently about the what has happened .. thats just how I feel about it from my point of view..
2007-03-19 10:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Beth C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think anything serious is going on. Tons and tons of men like going onto those sites to look. I don't think it's a reflection on you per say. When you found out about them and he got mad, it's because he probably felt embarrassed and also that you went through "his things"/privacy issue. If I was doing something like, I wouldn't want my mate to find out and I would be mad if he was "snooping". But, here's the thing, I'd probably tell him because I wouldn't want to keep anything from him. And seriously, that would "spice" things up, you know? Men are competitive in that department, but so are women. =)
2007-03-19 10:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is trying to justify something that he shouldn't need to be doing if he is happily married. You don't need to lust after other women if you truly love your wife(and whether it is porn on the internet or going to strip clubs it's still lusting after other women). Many men don't see any harm in this behavior since there is no physical contact, but it shows a lack of respect for his wife in doing so. As far as cheating, technically cheating is defined as committing a sexual act with someone other than your spouse. So in the dictionary definition he is not cheating, but this behavior shouldn't happen especially since you have told him it hurts your feelings. That shows that he disrespects you since he has no remorse in doing it.
2007-03-19 10:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its CHEATING! If it wasnt anything he would not of got upset. or try to hide it. This is just another form of it. Just because its on the computer dosent mean anything. Cheating is cheating if it envolves another person in the flesh or on the computer. A real man is into you and only you! not anything or anyone else. Stop blameing yourself has nothing to do with you, its him.You deserve better then that. Plus I would really think about not marrying hi,, if he'll do it on the computer, hes probably willing to do it out in person to.
2007-03-19 10:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by pepsiqueen326 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn isn't cheating, but hiding the fact that he's doing it is lying. Also, it's different if this was a random picture on the net versus something that was sent to him.
2007-03-19 10:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by romipenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a form of cheating. I would get this handled before I got married. I know someone that had the same problem and they worked things out. But did bother her self esteem. Get it under control NOW!!
2007-03-19 10:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by ~Stepa♥~ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it cheating, but I would certainly call it destructive behavior.
If he looks at those pictures and becomes disatisfied with you, then it is certainly destructive behavior.
The same is true with romance novels. They are like naked pictures for women.
Some women read them and become disatisfied with their husbands.
So the ultimate question, for any behavior is does this behavior improve or harm my marriage?
If there is potential harm, such as the naked pictures or the romance novels, then we need to avoid or eliminate this behavior.
2007-03-19 11:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always watch porn. What helped me was to offer to watch it together. Then it can be a turn on for both of you and you know what he is doing. If he is open to that then you have a problem.
2007-03-19 11:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just had to clean his pipes and you were not in the mood
if it is everyday and all of the time and he is trying to make you do things you do not want to do then you have a problem, but naked chicks on the internet, big deal
so no it is not cheating, unless he cheat with chicks that he meets, then it is cheating
2007-03-19 11:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋