Am I being too hard on myself? Please HELP!?

Question

I am 18 years old and I am a full-time CNA (nursing). I have my HSD. I have my own apartment and no children. I have a live-in boyfriend whom I've spent 4 years with, we plan to marry shortly before I turn 25. I have no criminal history and I plan to attend college for LPN very soon. I had a difficult childhood and no family support. My boyfriend tells me how proud of me he is because I have accomplished so much for someone my age, but I feel like I haven't really done much. Am i being too hard or am I correct. Please help!

Answer 1

It's okay to want more out of life and have goals, but you have to recognize your accomplishments too. You've done very well without family support. You should be proud of yourself. Maybe make a list of things you would like to accomplish in life so you can go back to it occasionally and cross things off. It might help you to see what you've done in black and white.

Answer 2

u have done amazing n u should be very proud of yourself.U no how many people use there childhood as a reason for there adult behaviour or for when things go wrong they blame there parents and here is u who has proven that no matter how u r brought up u can still go somewhere in life if u really want to.Good for u for learning from your childhood n doing this on your own.U r being to hard on yourself n maybe it's bcuz your afraid if your not that u might fail which u have not n most likely won't.U already have done something n more then a lot of people for your age.U have your career ready to go which means u have accomplished something n u have plenty more time to do more if u want.Maybe it's time for another step.If u feel that u haven't done much then maybe it's bcuz u don't want to praise yourself when u should .U r doing great n keep it up.No matter what u do now u have something to fall back on if u decide to change your mind n do something else.There r millions of people out there that have not done a thing but sponge off there parents at your age n prob still r.Congrads on the engagement n good luck on your future.

Answer 3

Darlin' I take it that you came from a home where you were put down a lot...(self esteem ripped apart) and today, even though you've done more with your life than many others much older have never even thought to do, you still really don't think it's been good enough. You definitely should be very proud of all your accomplishments.

Your childhood is past you and now, you are on the road to incredible things...things that you never thought could be yours. Keep up the incredible work...you are going places, so pat yourself on the back and let yourself be proud of who you are and what you have done with your life so far. You have a lot of living yet to do...imagine how much more you can accomplish!

You go for the gusto girl!

Answer 4

Well, hey, get it out of the way while youre young!! You go girl!! More power to yah! When you get done, then its party time!! Time to experience the good life!! It is very wise of you to get it done now! Better now then later! So, no just do what makes you happy and you should be fine! You will be very successfull Im sure, so good luck with everything! Hope works out as planned for yah..... dont forget you can add some fun in between the school and everything.... Its when you have kids that you'll be locked down and not able to do much anymore! So live it up, while you can!

Answer 5

We all base our opinions and judgments on our past experiences. You both are correct. You have worked hard and done well. Your boyfriend is good in acknowledging your accomplishments, thus far. I don't think you are being to hard on yourself...you just have not come to your point of self-actualization. This will be accomplished through more work, on your part, and finding whatever it is that fulfills this. This can take many years--and many years of education. You may find yourself eventually getting a Masters in Nursing or more (in something related).

Answer 6

You are being too hard on yourself. Success isn't only measured in giant steps it is also measured in baby steps.Every journey begins with the first step.It appears you have set goals for yourself and have not quit aspiring to reach your personal best. Life is about growing and change.You are doing well.You have overcome your lack of family support by believing in yourself.Your boyfriend supports your efforts and you are working together for a future together. WELL DONE! There is a saying "Don't be afraid to reach for the stars, but remember to keep yourself grounded".It sounds like you are living this way. Good luck.

Answer 7

You are doing awesome! Congradulations. Most 18 year olds are still looking for handouts from everyone, because they think the world "owes" them something. Growing up with a difficult childhood can be a mixed blessing, in that, you probably learned at a young age, "If it's to be, it's up to me!" That's how you got that go-getter attitude of yours! You also had the chance to learn what did not work for your family, and you are unlikely to foolishly make the same mistakes. Again, I give you congradulations on your life. Keep up the good work.

Answer 8

There is always "more" to accomplish -- that's one of the great diseases of our social structure, the way that we measure our success.

Do you have a job you enjoy, a strong healthy relationship, and the financial means to support your interests and hobbies? Then you're doing great.

If you feel a driving urge to "do more", you can check into social charity work or something similar. But you're better off addressing your insecurity and your urge first, so that you understand fully why you choose to push yourself so hard.

Answer 9

Your doing a great job. You should be making a decent amount of money being a CNA at 18. just relax for a little bit.

Answer 10

What have you accomplished? I guess if you want an atypical lifestyle without any kind of excitement and to live like a drone than I would be very proud of myself. If you actually want to experience life I'd be depressed as hell.