I have been with my hubby for 13yrs now,and even tho we never always did me and his ex wife get on,i deal with her more than he does. I do all i can for their kids too they are great. But sunday we had a christening 2go 2,their 1st grandchild. When it came to introducing everyone she did everyone except me. why? My family think she is feeling old(shes only43) i am 34.
2007-03-19 03:16:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My question is, why would you automatically expect her to be civil towards you? You are married to her ex-husband. I would expect behavior like this, and not be surprised or moved by it at all. Why do you care? If I was in your situation, I would treat her as coldly, and keep dealings to a minimum. I wouldn't care if she snubbed me.
Next time you are at a family function with your husband, and she does something to irritate you, just go up to your husband and give him a long, deep soulful kiss, and make sure she sees it. That'll knock her down a peg.
2007-03-19 07:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happen to a friend of mine, in a little different way. She married her husband after his ex's wife walk out leaving the kids with him. Two boys age 5 and 2.
Anyway, time went on and when the younger one got married (he was 24 at the time) she was sitting with family. Then the ex-wife comes in the church and says that is where I'm suppost to sit ( and I mean loudly in the middle of the aisle). Then the father of the bride wanted to know who she was, they had never met. She didn't even met the bride or the bride mother, in fact had very little contact with either son while they were growing up.
To keep the piece my friends moved right a few rows back. Then the groom came out and look around the church. When he saw that his mother (that is what he called her) was sitting a few rows back, he leaves his place comes down and ask her what he is doing, doens't really wait for a response because he already had his hand around her upper arm picking her up and taking her to the front. He then said you belong here.
His biological mother was very mad. Then he said you can either sit here or there is a place in the back. That shut her up quick.
If this person is not going to introduce you then you need to do it yourself. Not mean but with a big smile on your face. I don't think it her feeling old I personally think it her feeling that someone might take the place in her grandchild life and she will do whatever she can to squeeze you out of the picture so she can be the only grandmother.
Good luck.
2007-03-19 11:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you are good to the kids but that was still not your grandchild and she may have felt that it was their special day, no offense to you. It's also an awkward situation and she probably didn't know how to introduce you and decided not to.
2007-03-19 10:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just didn't see you. It's possible right. Or maybe she didn't introduce you because you technically don't have any blood ties to the kid. I don't know their are a number of reasons. I see why you are upset though. It would have been nice to be recognized considering that you try to help even though you don't have too. Don't worry about it. If you and her are on friendly terms then you shouldn't worry about it.
2007-03-19 10:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not a mystery why she behaves that way. She is immature and is just not capable of accepting you. The children keep her and your husband connected emotionally and in her mind there is never going to be room for you. As long as your husband loves you and treats you well, don't worry about her.
2007-03-19 10:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are technically no relation to the child. This is HER grandchild, not yours. Sounds like YOU are the jealous one.
2007-03-19 10:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry my wife never introducing me and when someone asked me who i was i just say i the guy she marry to and the father of two of her kids
2007-03-19 11:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about what she says or does. you've got her man and she can't do anything about it. i know that in the moment it must bother you but don't let her and/or her actions take over your thoughts.
2007-03-19 10:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was just rude, don't read into anything else, I would confront her on this.
2007-03-19 10:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by ACTS 4:12 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All the best, she is jealous
2007-03-19 10:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kehgohar R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋