Moving to a new apartment really has me depressed.?

Question

I just moved out of an apartment I've rented for 14 years. It was small, and I often complained about the lack of natural daylight , but I was cool in it. The landlord decided that he wants to move to Florida and let his son move downstairs while he rents out the top part of the house. I now live in a spacious, brightly lit co-op apartment in the neighborhood where I grew up. Why am I having these feelings of depression? I'm a man and I actually cried the other night because I miss where I just moved from and the neighbors around me. What's the best way to get through this?

Answer 1

First of all it is quite natural - you are mourning a loss. You are now in a good place. So you need to flip things and think about all the good things you can now do - like invite friends old and new to your new home party!

Let your old friends know where you are and make new friends. Spend the next month doing two things:

1) Getting your new home just as you want it - concentrating on all the things you can now do that you could not do before.
2) Go out to your new neighborhood and make at least one place per week your new place to.... e.g. have coffee/breakfast or buy supplies etc!

You are a man now not growing up remember so your "places will have changed.

Answer 2

You're homesick because your new space doesn't feel like home yet. You spent a very long time in your old apt. and it'll take awhile to feel right again. Start making memories in your new place.... have a party, invite friends over. Do a little decorating, too. All males need to mark their territory, right? And don't be afraid to cry because you're a man. You'll be healthier for letting your emotions out. Give it some time and these feelings will pass, but too much time passes and you still feel this way or you find yourself feeling worse instead of better, get some help.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I just sold my house that I bought 2 years ago because I needed the money. It was a nice house but short lived. No I'll probably live in some dumpy apartments with loser people who make noise all of the time. I can't handle people well because I am schizophrenic, and I will probably end up shooting someone. God bless.

Answer 4

Your feeling depressed because, to make it short, you have in your brain something called synaptic nuerons. They connect parts of your mind (psyche) to pleasure sensors. 14 years of building the habit of going to the first apartment and living there means your brain is wondering what the *ell is going on and the result is a feeling of non-pleasure. This is the reason why people are sad when they lose something or something changes in their environment.

Solution: Make yourself at home where you are now and the pleasure will come as soon as you have restructered your brain to accept your new surroundings.

Answer 5

14 years is a long time. Sentiments do slipped in sometimes and its not surprised you feel depressed and missed the good old place. You need to tell yourself now that you've made the decision, move on and don't look back.

Answer 6

Throw a party! Invite all your friends, invite some of your neighbors that you think are not psychos, and have a blast. Surround yourself with good friends and positive reinforcements, and you'll feel right as day in no time!

Answer 7

There's a lot of great articles about this on Apartment Living at Apartments.com. Here's one you might like. Stay strong!

Coping with Loneliness
It’s been three weeks since you moved into your new place. For the first couple days, it was a blessing to spend all your evenings at home alone since unpacking and making your place feel like home was your priority. But the last few nights you’ve actually dreaded leaving work. You knew you’d be coming home to an empty apartment, so quiet you could hear a pin drop. You’ve tried watching television, surfing the net and have even checked out some chat rooms in an attempt to meet new people. Yet as the evening winds down, you realize that this is the way life’s gonna be for the next year at least. You’re lonely, and it’s the worst feeling you’ve ever felt because you can’t do anything to fix it. Is this the way it will be forever? Don’t despair, there are ways of coping with it!


Moving can be quite the let-down. There’s all this excitement about the big bedroom and the happening “hood” and there’s so much to do—packing, unpacking, hanging up pictures—and suddenly it’s all over and you find yourself sitting in a big, empty apartment with no one to talk to about your day. How did this happen?

Loneliness happens to virtually everyone at one point or another in life. Loneliness is something you have control over and just because you’re by yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely.

Consider the definition of “lonely”:
Lonely (adj.) 1. separated from others 2. marked by dejection from being alone 3. enjoyed or performed alone 4. lacking companions

“Lonely” does not mean “sadly consuming excess amounts of rocky road” or “drowning your sorrows in white zinfandel.” It simply means you are not with others and are either feeling dejected or enjoying the time alone. Aha! Being lonely can actually be seen as an enjoyable experience, depending on your perspective and what you choose to do with that free time. Read on for ways to enjoy your time alone and make new friends.

Take a self-inventory: Make a list of the things you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time. Perhaps you always wanted to write a non-fiction novel or take up long-distance running. Anything is within reach now that you have this time to yourself! Set goals just as you would at work or school. You may even want to give yourself a deadline for writing a certain number of pages or achieving a certain distance. This will make your alone time more meaningful and productive.

Reach out to others: Giving your time to others in need is a sure way to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Consider taking on a little brother or sister through the Boys and Girls Club, tutor at a community center or even organize your own collection drive. Knowing that someone else depends on you will make you feel more a part of your community.

Enjoy the simple things: Our society often makes us feel that in order to be happy, we have to have tons of friends and have to be doing exciting activities constantly. Learn to truly enjoy the simple things in life, even activities that you usually think of as chores. Wash the dishes with some music on and make tidying up a time to be silly and dance around the house. Take a warm bath with a relaxing novel instead of your usual rushed clean-up routine. Think of every bill you pay as a small victory and be proud of yourself. You’re making it on your own!

Sounds great…but what about all those shows I’ve been recording on television?
Experts say it is better to break old habits and begin new ones when trying to end loneliness. Here are some things not to do in your new place:


Don’t watch television incessantly. It’s never good when you consider your favorite character on that late-sitcom “your closest friend these days.” Try to limit exposure and mix up your viewing choices. Also avoid turning on the tube while eating your dinner.

Don’t spend endless hours in the chat rooms online. Internet friends are nice, real friends are better! Try to meet people at a local hang-out, the gym, religious group or community club (such as a running club or baking exchange).

Don’t stick to a stringent routine. Variety is the spice of life. Cook different meals, switch up your gym routine and hang out with someone from a different department at work. Keeping a fresh routine not only prevents boredom, it also opens you up to meeting new people or finding a new activity you enjoy.

That’s great, but will I ever meet new people?
Yes! Just give yourself time and remember that when you enjoy being around you, other people will, too! Try these tips for growing new relationships:


Make a list of people to call, e-mail, send an online card to or send a small gift to. You may have to make the first step to rekindle old relationships or start new ones, but then give others a chance to reciprocate. Your time is valuable, so spend it with people who enhance your life and add value to it.
Your new neighborhood may have tons of activities you didn’t even realize. Call the community center or go online to your city’s website and browse around. Attend a local fair or join a club and be open to meeting people.
Volunteer! It’s a way to enjoy yourself but it is also great for meeting others. You’ll be surrounded by people who enjoy giving their time to others and those may be exactly the kind of friends that you’ve been looking for.

Answer 8

take a pill?