My 14 year old son has just been excluded from school for 10 days. Without going into a lot of detail he was verbally abusive to a teacher. Now i dont condone this behaviour and he has been reprimanded by myself. But surely being excluded for 10 days is like a holiday to him he will love it. Both parents at work sat at home on msn or the xbox. I think that teachers nowadays are far to keen to exclude children instead of giving them punishment that is appropriate to the behaviour.
When my son goes back to school and is a bit bored with the lessons, all he has to to do is be cheeky to the teacher and hey presto another 10 days holiday......
Just wondering what other peoples oppinions are on this..
2007-03-19 03:04:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I understand your concern, I know that some school will conduct in-school suspension, where the child attends school everyday but is kept separate from all other students. They will spend the day in isolation and are expected to work on their homework/study or complete essays assigned by their teachers.
You could contact the school to ask them if this is possible, stating your concern that it will be a 'holiday' for your son
2007-03-19 03:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Borealis83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son would never do anything to get himself expelled from school because he knows what the consequences would be when he got home. Obviously, this is not the first time your son has verbally abused an adult because a 14 year old doesn't just suddenly become abusive. I think this is learned behaviour and who do you think he learned it from? I can only guess. To be expelled for 10 days, tells me that your son may have abused his teacher previously to this incident. You as his parent must be supportive of the teacher or your son will soon be walking down the wrong road. Go and discuss the incident with his teacher and co-operate with the school rather than make lame excuses why your son should not be expelled.
2007-03-19 04:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is your son cheeky in lessons? Is it because he diclikes school or is it because of the way you have brought him up? I work in a school for children with behavioural, emotional and social difficulties and the most common reason for pupils being placed with us is lack of discipline at home. It is a legal requirement now for parents of children excluded from school for periods longer than 5 days to arrange adequate supervision by an adult to ensure that the child does assigned school work. If you have not been informed of this by the school then I would broach the subject with them. There are certain restrictions placed on teachers with regard to the use of detention and other punishments, and perhaps these sanctions have already been imposed with no effect. It would be unfair for a whole class to suffer because of your son's rudeness.
2007-03-19 03:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by samantha_b_mcgregor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it become a holiday. Take his xbox away-and certainly for a longer period than 10 days. Have someone come over and babysit, and make him pay for it himself. If no one is available to babysit, take him to work with you. Contact the school, get all of the assignments your child will be missing and make him work on it. Why would you let your child think of it as a vacation? If he is allowed to enjoy his time off, do you really think his behavior will change? He'll go back to school in 10 days and try to get another 10! Why would he want to stay at school if he knows no one at home will care about what he does while he is suspended?
2007-03-19 09:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by recreationalhousewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in this situation it would only happen once because my father would have made sure I understood never to get excluded again - I would have learned my lesson - perhaps parents needs to be a bit harder on their children and make sure they understand that they must not verbally abuse a teacher. In my daughters school you are excluded after receiving 5 warnings so I would imagine that what your son did was quite bad.
2007-03-19 11:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble is schools have a very limited range of sanctions they can use.
He's your son so the problem is being passed back to you. If you don't want him to continue to behave like this and miss out on more education, then you'll have to come up with effective enough sanctions. You want him to think ' I really don't want the school to contact my parents again.'
There are lots of other youngsters who are missing out because of your son. While a teacher is dealing with his bad behaviour the rest of the class is losing teaching time. Teachers have a lot to do. They can't be expected to put up with indisipline and still get good results at the end of the year. Get on top of the problem yourself for your son's sake and everyone else's.
2007-03-19 03:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him have a holiday then! If he wants to act like a child, treat him like one - get a childminder. Take away his X-Box and PC, and leave him a list of chores to be done each day while you are at work . Also, make sure he does not go out with his friends, text, call them or anything. Its only a fun experience if you let it be.
Why should teachers have to deal with verbal abuse in the classroom just because some littl brat wants to act up infront of their mates.
Its not down to the teachers to punish your son or teach him how to behave thats YOUR job!
2007-03-19 03:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by mrssandii1982 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Look at your avatar!!! Does that say anything to you? The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
As for school, is this his 1st referral to be disciplined?
What have you done do correct the behavior at home?
Why should the people that want to get an education have to put up with his tirades?
This is just the start of of his teenage years. If you let him get away with this behavior now, it will only get worse. Take away the Internet and phone (both house and cell). Ground him for the same 10 days. If you need to, hire a baby sitter to watch to make sure he doesn't go out while you're at work.
I'm probably going to get sanctioned for this but it's worth it if you read it.
Stay with the tough love....enforce the rules...don't bend.
You have several hard years ahead of you with this child. Take control now! before it gets any worse!
2007-03-19 03:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by The Cheminator 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm a teacher and I think the first priority is to get disruptive and disrespectful children out of the classroom. But should they be excluded? No, not until it's permanent, which should happen much more easily than it does.
I think they need social isolation at school in a way that makes sure they don't want it to happen again. Or maybe enforced detentions, litter picking, even cleaning - to repay something back to the school for their disruption.
Once thing's, certain - we should be much tougher than we are, for their own and others' sakes. Often they are just crying out for boundaries to be enforced, so they know where they are.
2007-03-19 03:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
By the looks of things the school are relying you for punishment, the school just seem to care to get him out of their school.
I would agree take away the things he want...
But I do agree the school maybe should setup a punishment system there, I think at least they should of given him some thought of detention as well.
2007-03-19 03:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by FuturisticKid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋