I keep thinking something will mess up my happiness. No matter what I do, I always think something horrible is going to happen to take away my success, my beauty or my happiness, no matter how much work I put in & no matter how much I do what I'm supposed to do. I'm starting to think this is a "premonition" of bad things to come. Then again, I'm wondering if it's all in my mind because of the life I had. I was raised around alot of negativity, way into adulthood & have made wrong decisions due to things I've learned from my "peers" & "elders", also from my own arrogance & mainly ignorance. I've had alot of hard & painful lessons. I've been hurt alot of times. But I'm trying to get out there & make a success of my life & do the right thing & continuing to try & weed out negative people & influences in my life. However, I have this HUGE fear that I will get hurt really bad and/or something will destroy my success, beauty & happiness. Is this just in my mind because of my experiences?
2007-03-19 03:00:07 · 4 answers · asked by LaLa 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
Hate to say it but that is all in our minds. You can't know for sure 100% that something bad will happen but experience has taught you that's what to expect. It's kind of a defense mechanism, if you don't expect anything good then you won't be disappointed when it doesn't happen, and if by chance it does you'll be pleasantly surprised. That's how I live my life, it's not the cheery-est route, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.
2007-03-19 03:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by KuraChika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly sweetie! You are allready a Success, You were born" You became a success story the day you were born and no one can ever take that away from you.
Just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder we are all beautiful to someone some where in some way.
Everyone measures success in different ways, I don't set one big goal that is imposible to reach! I try to set baby steps one that is easy to reach then i set the next baby step, This way you will be a great success every step of the way.
You are allready successful so just take one step at the time you will reach your goals and become eaven more successful over time.
Here's to your success,
2007-03-19 11:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, because I do it too, that you are focusing on the negative, and it's hard to make yourself stop, because, you're unaware you are doing it.
I had a fear I was going to get killed in a car accident last year, it was a feeling that lasted about 2weeks, I even wrote about it in my diary and wrote "if something were to happen to me"....and started jotting down a small Will.
The feeling passed, and, hasn't(knock on wood)came back.
Sometimes these are feelings of an Anxiety of some kind.
Maybe you can practice some breathing tech, or take some CBT therapy, or even have your Dr prescribe a mild anti-anxiety med.
Good Luck, don't waste your life wondering what's going to happen next.
2007-03-19 10:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by tamilynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a bad day - not only are you depressed and negative - but you have posted in the wrong section.
Make a list of 10 things you want to do and do them. If you think you are clinically depressed then go see a doctor.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 10:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Biz Guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋