i always knew right when i started having "attractions", that i like girls/women....but i also like guys too, but when i am attracted to a guy, the guy is usually feminine looking or gay...its usually a guy with long hair or a guy who is shaved all the time and muscles are a big turn off!....i've identified myself as being bisexual all these years but after describing my own prefferences i seem to fall under being a lesbian and theres a problem with that becuase i'm with a guy right now and i am carrying his child and he wants to be with me forever and get married, but i don't want to...i will love my child when she is born and i have feelings for him but the feelings i have for him are like brother/sister type feelings or best friend feelings, i don't know who i am anymore and i don't know what to do about it:(
2007-03-19 02:49:58 · 6 answers · asked by Sydney 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
my bf does know i am attracted to females, and accepts it.....but what he doesn't know is i like females more than males and i don't really want a relationship with a guy-which means him...i've had this in the back of my mind for a while even before i was pregnant, but being bregnant has allowed me to think about life decisions a little bit more, so i have alot on my mind...i'm pretty much over the "b*tch" stage in my pregnancy concidering i am almost 8 months along now, so my emotions have died down quite a bit in the past month or 2...haven't even been cranky
2007-03-19 03:37:21 · update #1
Wow, that is some kinda drama there. The best thing that I can tell you is to be honest with your self. If you really don't want to be with this person let him know. You have no choice but to love your child when she is born. Staying with the father when your sexual orientation is otherwise won't be good for you or your family because you'll end up cheating on him and when he finds out it will be worse. Maybe it'll be better if you get out now.
2007-03-19 02:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not a question to try to answer while you are pregnant. Wait until after your baby is born to make those kind of life decisions. Don't marry anyone you consider a "brother" but understand that you have created life with another person and that will be with you forever. He has as much right to be the child's parent as you do. You will need to take that into consideration in anything you do.
2007-03-19 10:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are pregnant right now. Your experiencing the emotional roller coaster people have when they are pregnant. This is normal. You are interested in women and that's alright. You still have to realize that you are having a child with this guy and you two should be together forever. I am sure he wants to raise his child and give you all of his love and attention. If you really don't think its going to workout between you two then you will have to deal with that later. Maybe even later on you can tell him your interest in women and maybe you and him can even have a woman friend that you can 'hang' out with once in a while. I don't think all guys would be against this.
But right now you have to focus on whats right. Your baby and the welfare of it. Your going thru many emotional thoughts right now and its totally normal. Try to stick this in the back of your head and try to deal with this after the pregnancy. Right now you have to worry about yourself and your child. Take life one step at a time.
Don't worry. It will all work out.
2007-03-19 09:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl you have so much going on its really not even funny!! but i can relate to what your talking about i feel the same way i am trapped in what i dont want to be in!! i have children to and i to find women very attractive and sexy more than i feel for a man until i put myself into a catorgory also, the only thing that holds be back from being who i want to be is my boyfriend also!! all i can say is keep your head up and figure out what you want more in life!!
2007-03-19 10:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by barbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely a lesbian. hence the reason you're attracted to feminine men. Attraction isn't about defining yourself as a lesbian or straight, it's about your type of "person" not man or woman. When I become attracted to people, I usually become attracted to both sexes but I don't necessarily define myself as bisexual I simply grow crushes on both male or female. It's alright to not be in love with the father of your child. I'm going out with a man I'm not in love with simply because I know he loves me and sometimes it's better to become involved with people who you know love you more than you could love them, it sounds selfish but it's the surest way to not get hurt. Let your attraction guide. Don't think you're confused because you're attracted to both sexes it's the people you become attracted to that define you. Please stay away from gay men who won't pay you any mind; that just show you want what you can't have.
2007-03-19 10:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Leo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think the best thing for you to do is to do what is best for the baby
2007-03-19 11:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋