Why is my girlfriend acting differently and not telling me she loves me?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months. I am 17 and so is she (but shes 6 months older). For the first month of the relationship everything was just unbelievable. She was head over heels for me and me for her. But after the first month yer sure we had little arguments but resolved them. Now the other night we were watching TV and she told me how hot she thought this guy on TV was. I thought that was ok because i totally trust her. Then i asked if she thought she knew any guys personally that the thought was hot. She told me she thought a guy at her university was hot and i was Ok with that. Then she askd me the same question (but bout girls) and i answered with 'Yer a girl from work'. Now she is really upset with me that i find this other girl hot. And tonight she was acting like a completely different person i didnt even know her. She doesnt know if she wants to be with me anymore but this has just come out of the blue. Love doesnt just disappear. Wat shuld i do?

Answer 1

probably because you are young, you will go through several GF before you settle down when you are older, same thing as she will be doing,

Answer 2

She doesn't. Neither of you do. She thinks she does, but no. She's seventeen. You both are - meaning you guys aren't totally capable of handling a responsible relationship.

There's a part in the mind of a teenager that doesn't allow us to make clear and correct judgement and in turn doesn't allow us to fall in love. Not yet. She's based your qualification on physical senses [including how she likes a guy to act in front of her]. This is why shallow people exist.

So, she keeps an eye out for hot guys and tells you to your face whom she picks out. But when you answered her question [the question SHE personally asked you], she goes all flip.
That's because her feelings tell her to take offense and disregard her own previous actions. Her unstable mind is causing her to make vast mood swings and diverse reactions to the same situation under her given time span, which, in this case, is tonight.

My advice, if she's willing to learn with you, grow up with you and grow old with you, whoever tries to catch her eye, you can both talk about this professionally and compromise. See how you both want this relationship, and each other, to go in the next few days.

But if she's had it, then let her go. That would be the best thing to do since the both of you need time to get to know yourselves before yuo can start taking two lives at once as your responsiblity.

But good luck to the both of you.

Answer 3

The case of "she can't handle getting back what she dishes out." She's probably just feeling insecure at this point. Your time dating is really short. U will find a whole lot of other things to be confusing and uncertain until u both put some time and work into ur relationship.

Rule no. 143***NEVER tell a girl u like someone that close to home. You set urself up for that one. Oh well, u will be learning so much.

Answer 4

Focus on what qualities you like about each other and not someone outside the relationship. Sounds to me like those words hurt each of you, if you love her then go to her and apologise to her for saying the chick at work was hot and maybe throw in a complaint about her to make your girl look good. Even if you think she was wrong by saying someone was hot first try to go out of the way to do something to show her that she is the only one for you! First stop and think about why you both are checking out people out side of your relationship...there is no room for a third wheel. Good luck hope you get the girl!

Answer 5

You can continue to play her games or you can go after that hot babe from work. She has been telling you it's over in the way that is fairl cruel. Even if you were to rekindle the magic, think about spending a major part of your life with such a game player. Love didn't just disappear. The infatuation cycle is over and she has concluded there is no followon. Save your energy for the next women, but always be aware of the impermanence of infatuation.

Answer 6

Seriously, man. At 17 no relationship is very serious. It sounds to me you are setting yourself up for a big hurt. You are more attached than she is, and trying to make it better won't make it better. Give her some space and try to start building a life apart from her, that way if she notices and doesn't like your newfound independence she will come and try to make things better herself. And if she ends it, you have already started on the road to recovery. Also, you need to learn what is serious and what isn't. A little spat over 'who thinks who is hot' is piddily. She may just be blowing off steam. In the mean time, just suck it up and let her be the way she is. She may come back around, but don't let her affect your overall mood. If you allow these things to affect you then she will gain a huge advantage over you, and if she is the type she could use it to hurt you. Be the man.

Answer 7

Aside from the fact that shes mad you work with a girl you think is "hot' ???? Dude women are wierd creatures, they think that men cant figure them out, but that just come from all the females that are so young in respects to mental maturity that have no understanding of themselves. Just cuz they cant figure out their own sex they think some men cant figure them out. Is that not why they have so many womens magazines that only go on propaganda????? Okay enouigh of that rant,lol, If she doesnt get over it and isnt able to work things out with you then both of you have lost what it is that you had and if unable to work things out together there is no point in trying to go any further... Relationships arent just candy and beautiful wonderful things, theres hardships and trials that we all learn from and if we cant learn them together than theres no point in having that relationship.... You're both young yet and theres alot of room for learning about what it takes to make things work.. We're all crazy,,,, lol... Good luck

Answer 8

She shouldnt be upset because she thinks other guys are hot, and there is nothing wrong with looking as long as yo don't touch another girl. And if she really loves you she won't break up with you. So you should sit down and try to talk it out and if they talk doesnt work then there really is nothing else to do

Answer 9

I found that in a relationship, for me, it is best to keep who you think is attractive quiet. I know that my boyfriend finds other women attractive, but I have asked him to keep it to himself, because it upsets me. He doesn't care if I say a guy is hot, but I still keep it to myself so no problems arise. If you really want to resolve this, I think you should tell her she is the most beautiful girl in the world, and the girl at your work doesn't compare to her. Then I would suggest that you both keep it quiet who you think is attractive, because it sounds like she can't handle hearing it. I know that I am that way, I really don't want to hear about who my boyfriend thinks is attractive.

Answer 10

Young ladies and gentlemane have the same desires we old farts still do, ( or remember), the differece is, younger people are far less secure, in their relationships. She wants to have desire for others, but,,wants you to think she is the only one. I would suggest talking about desires, expectations, and weather you promise to be exclusive with each other, or play around, with others. You both need to know what to expect from each other,,weather it is commitment, or playing around, with others.

Answer 11

You have to try to keep your girl interested in you remember you have been going out for 3 years already. Think about things you guys used to do in the begining. Try to surprise her with memories that will bring her to remember when you guys began to go out. Try to talk with her, you need to communicate with her to try to understand her. Show her that you still care. Remember that little things also count. Be the bigger man in the relationship this way she could see how shes been acting.