My son is 8yrs and in the 2nd grade.... he has ADHD and a few other problems that are not recognized at school as a LD. His teacher has said alot of negative things to him but the 2 toppers are: (both said in front of the class)
1. After he missed one day of school, she came up to him and said, "I just wanted you to know I had such a wonderful day yesterday when you were not here"
2. He had gotten in trouble for talking and she told him " i wish there was some way to get you out of this school"
My son is really tore up over these comments and is sure doenst help his attitude toward school either. I have talked with the pricipal and they(his teacher and principal) just called him to the office proceeded to interogate him, until he came up with adifferent story, and said that the teacher didnt say it.
I know she probably did, she has told me such at the parent teacher confrences we have had, I have no reson to believe he made this up. Whta should I do?
2007-03-19 02:23:51 · 11 answers · asked by gonzomars 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Don't give up.
Speak to the teacher face-to-face, and speak to the principal again. Tell the principal your take on what has happened, that questioning your boy amounted to interrogating, and that gentler means need be employed by the adults he answers to.
His teacher is obliged to be a positive role model, speak in an uplifting manner, and do all within her power to make her classroom a positive place in which to learn.
Talk to the district office, enlighten them as to the response on the part of the principal and teacher and get them on your side about your child's interests. He should never be alienated, but encouraged to participate. Shame on them. The teacher needs an administrative version of having her knuckles rapped.
2007-03-19 02:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional Abuse In Schools
2016-12-18 06:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely emotional abuse. No teacher has any right to say anything of the sort to a child!!!!
I would continue to set up meetings with the school principal and the teacher. How does your son act in his other classes (art, music, etc.)? Try to find out so you can get a better picture of the situation. How did his teacher from 1st grade deal with him? Talk to that teacher to see if she had any problems. Often times some teachers have a lower tolerance than others, and ADHD is a hard disorder to deal with for some teachers. In addition, talk with other parents. Maybe your son is not the only one, and this is an important point. Other students may also be able to state if these statements were said (i.e. in case the principal does not believe your child).
Second, I would try to have your child tested for learning disabilities. ADHD is a learning disability and you need to push this, and any other disabilities that he may have, into the light so that he can get the proper help.
Another course of action is to take the child to either the school psychologist, or another psychologist. Have them talk to the professional, and I am sure that the truth and how he feels will come out. This will be helpful to prove your point.
I would also suggest trying to change the classroom. When I was in 6th grade I had a horrible time in a classroom. My teacher wasn't a great teacher and my classmates goofed off. I would constantly ask to go to the nurse or try to stay home (hard to do when your mother works at the school). My mother fought to have me placed in another class. Once I was placed in another class everything changed and I started to love school again.
Just remember to keep fighting. Your child deserves the best education possible and does not deserve to be treated the way he is currently being treated. If things do not change, you can always bring up the situation to the board of education and even threat with legal action. Or... you could always move your child to another, better, school.
Good luck with your situation. I hope it works out, especially for your son!
2007-03-19 02:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by smsherrick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a sit down meeting with all parties involved, including your son. He has every right to be there. Before the meeting tell you son that he must tell the truth and not be intimidated by his teacher or the principal. If everyone involved is there at the same time it is easier to get the real story. I think I would also mention that considering your child's age that any kind of "questioning" about something like this should not and will not ever take place again without you being present. I would also question the validity of the "information" they received without you being present and let them know that you have doubts about their results. If you can't get a satisfactory results from this you can take your complaints to the Superintendent and the School Board.
2007-03-19 02:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by mental 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I worked in a school district and if your problem is not getting resolved with the teacher or the principal, you should take this up to the district level (an assistant superintendent, etc.) If at all possible, remove your child from this environment. If that isn't feasible, take your complaint to a higher level...while this may trickle down to more bad treatment of your child, maybe you could get him switched to a different teacher within the same school.
2007-03-19 02:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by cudancegirl1 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since the pricipal refuses to stand by you here, go above his head. Talk to the superintendant and make it totally clear that you are NOT messing around, you want answers NOW! I've found that a lot of schools become very flexible for you after you let them know exactly how far you're willing to take it.
2007-03-19 02:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kaiialyne S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible emotional abuse of a child, and I think you should make a stronger stand with the principal. Ask to have your son moved to a different class, and if that doesnt happen take it up with the district education office.
2007-03-19 02:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have recently discovered school staff stick together to spin their version of events...
I overcame that by writing down everything said to me by the teachers, then filing a complaint with their board of governors & the education welfare dept... the school wouldn't back down, but they asked me what I wanted to achieve by complaining, so I gave them a list...
which asked for their support & practical help for the child rather than threats to exclude - that included formulating an effective anti-bullying policy (i.e. applicabale to staff & pupils) (now mandatory in UK schools... so take school to task if that is not being done according to guide lines!)
2007-03-19 04:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's best to switch school. If not the teacher or the principal will black-list your child and your child days would be like hell. Why not expose such acts to the media?
2007-03-19 02:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nonsensical 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-02 09:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by thao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋