Are all unattached men, especially in the UK, only interested in sex and fun?Have all the genuine men died?

Answer 1

I know what you are saying there! There seems to be an abundance of people either single or not just looking for a one night. Not really my thing, I would rather know someone before sleeping with them! and the whole get up in a morning and vanish thing is not really my thing! It makes it harder for the decent guys to meet women etc as the impression straight away is that you just want a quick shag! I have been single no through choice for 5 years, giving myself time to sort out my llife after a nightmare relationship, now I guess I am kind of looking, but really have no idea where to start most of my mates are now all setled down, and nights out in the town are not the best place to meet people...with my 30th approaching I kind of wonder......wether there are decent available women out there...! but hey thats life.
Good luck with your search!

Answer 2

Yes, all unattached men are interested in sex and fun. And so are all attached men. In case you hadn't noticed, that's why we have plug-compatible genitalia. It's the price women pay for being sexually attractive.

But 'only interested'? Are you sure you're ready for this stuff?

If your definition of a 'genuine' man is someone who DISlikes sex and fun, you may be better off with a cat. They're also interested in sex and fun, but not with you.

Or an amputee, perhaps. But if you really want to have a realistic, adult relationship, then you're going to have to come to terms with the sex drives of the guys you fancy, and perhaps your own as well. And try to work out a compromise between what you want and what you can realistically get. Some of your options include:

If you're devastatingly gorgeous, then you can probably get away with a celibate relationship with some guys, for a while at least, until they give up and leave. Or you can stick to deeply devout religious guys, who'll pretend that they don't want sex, or at least won't require it.

If you're normally attractive, then you may have to search for a while to find someone whose drives are damaged or defective in some way. To make the process more efficient, you might consider wearing a ribbon or badge saying 'No Sex, Please, Under Any Cirumstances'. You could lighten the tone by including a smiley face - if that's not too mixed a message.

Most women, in my experience, are quite fond of sex itself, but are not necessarily keen on indulging with new guys right from the first moment. They usually want to assess the man a little first. Most guys, on the other hand, are quite keen on having the sex first, and worrying about the relationship - if any - afterwards.

Cynthia Payne put it rather well: 'They can't think properly until they've been de-spunked.'

So most new proto-relationships are a compromise, in which the guy makes his desires obvious and occasionally tries his luck, and the woman resists his advances as tactfully as possible while she checks him out. Guys usually understand this, even though they may complain. In fact the manner of their advances is an important assessment factor for the woman.

And when and if *she* decides it's a good idea, they get on with it. If not, not.

If this is too much for you, consider a pet instead.

CD

Answer 3

I don't live in the UK, I live in the USA. But I have found that most young guys only care about sex. And the ones who actually want a relationship are in one. So I continued to just ignore all the young guys who were my age. Then when I was in college I met my boyfriend. I was 19, and he was 25. Everyone thought that it wouldn't work because there is an age gap, but I found that because he is older, he is more mature, and interested in more than just sex. Now we have been together for 2 and 1/2 years, and plan to get married. Try looking for a guy who is a little older? He might be more mature, and ready for a real relationship.

Answer 4

Genuine men are a dying breed. We are being kiled by liberal women and the media; we are portrayed as useless and stupid. I'm not surprised that women are having a hard time finding good men. Our traditional roles are taken away. I still hold the door open for the elderly women in my area and they are pleasantly surprised when I do so. They older women always say thank you when I do but the younger ones don't. They act anoyed when I do so, maybe because they would rather be empowered as women-- they don't want to have to depend on a man for anything-- so I don't always wait and hold the door for them That is a sign of the times.

Answer 5

No and No. Women are often so much trouble though! Yeech!! What do you expect? Men need stimulation and it is not our fault. We are biologically designed this way. Seriously, we men go through so much trying to find a decent and fairly attractive woman. It is like therapy finding an attractive woman who is interested in you, even if it's only sexually. Do you realise how often we men get rejected? I wonder how long you would hold up... If a man glances at a woman twice he is catagorised as either weird or desperate, or both, and often he is just trying to get her to notice him. We are rejected if not only daily, often hourly.

Also, it is important to a man for his woman to be attractive. It is along the same lines as you settling for a man either without a job or without a future. Hope this was helpful.

Answer 6

Sex and fun is probably the only immediately identifiable common interests between 2 people. I'm sure once you get to know someone, you'll find more mutually fulfilling/satisfying interests. But, I suppose, it can be a catch 22 situation!

Answer 7

I'm not at the minute. I just see sex on TV and stuff but, distinguishing fantasy from reality, would probably not know what to do. I have low self-esteem, confidence etc. I don't know where I stand with women because I have insecurities about my looks and am fear of embarassment or not satisfying her. At the moment I just want a girl who won't give me low self-esteem.

Answer 8

i heard it said that men have two emotions :

Hunger and Horny
if he does not have an erection you better fix him a sandwich

asa side note - if he was not interested in sex and having fun you woudl soon start to wonder what he is not interested in you - life is strange buts its the only one we have so we have to make the best of it.

Answer 9

I am a genuine man but I am married......I think you have a point though as there does seem to be a lack of wanting to get to know somebody before jumping into bed.....

Answer 10

No.its just finding the decent ones thats difficult. i think ultimately most men, like women are looking to meet a soulmate to share their life with.just avoid places like nightclubs when looking for a man, as they are often just meat markets.