2007-03-19 02:19:22 · 24 answers · asked by honeypot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Commit yourselves to the emotional well being of each other permanently. Realize marriage is 24/7/365. There are no time outs, and you don't want one. Never stop talking to each other. Have some skills in place so when you disagree about something, and you will eventually, the disagreement doesnt blow up into an all out war. Tell each other you love them every day...and mean it. Trust and trustworthiness are a must. NEVER forget a birthday, or valentines day, or anniversary date. Even if all you can afford is a "happy anniversary honey" mark the date. To fail to do so says "you're not special to me any more". Be yourself, have your own interests, but involve your spouse when you can, and involve yourself in their interests too. Remain acutely aware of the status of your relationship, so you can fix bumps in the road when they occur. Your relationship should be the bedrock that you build your lives around. All the mundane things of life (money jobs,etc.) should take a back seat to it. Realize that as you age you both will change physically, and possibly mentally too. Sometimes quite drastically. Realize these changes occur and incorporate them into your lives. Don't wake up one day, and wonder who that is sleeping next to you, because they've changed so much, that they barely resemble the one you married way back when. Have in place a plan to keep you relationship fresh, or a way to refresh your relationship regularly. Date nights, vacations, whatever it takes. Time alone to just be a couple, and talk just about you two. No "the car needs tires, or the trim needs painting". Just time to express "I love you" regularly.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 02:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's no secret: good character, positive attitude, and reasonably flexible,confident and respectful.
Notice that everybody else missed the mark, however. This happens because they don't even have the language and haven't thought it through carefully.
Communication is nonsense. Communicate is what people do. If they are hiding something because they have low integrity, you get the infamous "communication breakdown", but it's just really sneaky, low behavior. Trust flows naturally from high integrity and good character. And they all left out having a positive attitude, and a grouch will wear you down, I guarantee it.
Maybe it is a secret after all.
2007-03-19 02:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good answers but frankly even people with good communication skills and people who are open with one another can find their marriage going stale.
Doing things together: you talk to long term couples who still are in love and they will tell you not only about the respect and consideration they give each other, they will have vivid memories of things they did together. They will remember hard times when they held each other up, interesting times when they had only each other for support, good times when they accomplished somethign together.
For some families, it's as simple as going camping, for others it's common interests and hobbies but talking strictly about married couples? It's all about doing something together, not just going through life in the same house.
2007-03-19 02:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I should take up crocheting. I can do embroidery, knit a little, but cannot be still long enough to do it. Wish I had a box full of money, too. Don't feel like the Lone Ranger about getting reported, either. I used to get reported all the time. I have not asked any questions lately, though, except why I cannot get to my Yahoo email. Found out that no one else can get to it either.
2016-03-16 22:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication
2007-03-19 02:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Choose the right partner. Someone you fancy, get on with and has the same commitments to marriage as you. Choose someone who loves you and wants to be with you and wants to be married to you.
And then stick to your marriage vows. Include having a sense of humour, respect for each other and being kind.
2007-03-19 02:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of factors actually.... unconditional love and selflessness. treating the other person the way that you would want them to treat you. Being commited and honest and faithful and true to each other no matter what. Working through problems together instead of running from them. communication is a key factor as well and always be willing to forgive no matter what. Make sure that God is the center and head of your marriage and relationship as well.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-03-19 02:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, be best friends with your partner, before you're lovers. Keep no secrets; tell no lies. And never go to bed angry with each other.
Finally, love each other unconditionally. Do these things, as I have, and you too can have a long and happy marriage. (Mine's going on 24 years.)
2007-03-19 02:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unconditional love and 100% acceptance of your partner exactly as they are. If you marry some one expecting them to change, the marriage is doomed from the start. They will change, we all do. But they probably won't change like you want or expec them to.
2007-03-19 03:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust, communication and above all dont take each other for granted -celebrate the fact you are together becasue you WANT to not because you HAVE to. Dont get stuck in a rut -spice things up not just in the bedroom in everyday things.
2007-03-19 02:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋