what's your view?
2007-03-19 02:05:17 · 20 answers · asked by bernardmailman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
feeling guilty isn't something you really choose to do. If you think it's wrong, you wil feel guilty no matter what lie you use to dress it up. If you don't think it's wrong, you will only feel embarrassed or try to hide it because you don't want people to find out that you DON'T feel guilty.
Seriously, if you're trying to decide whether to feel guilty, you either already DO feel guilty or you feel guilty about NOT feeling guilty. You don't need excuses, you just need to be honest about what you feel guilty about.
My view? It's a personal decision based on what you think is morally or religiously "correct" - I don't judge anyone for pre-marital sex. That's between themselves and their view of god or not-god.
My personal view? It's not immoral, damaging or wrong in and of itself. I never felt the slightest bit guilty about having nice consensual pre-marital sex so long as I was safe, considerate of the other person and everything was out in the open.
2007-03-19 02:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the reasons for not having premarital sex were that the woman could fall pregnant. So it was designed to protect the woman and the child.
If your religion forbids it, then abstain.
There are many people who say that you should try it out in case it doesnt work. What nonsense that is. Sex when you're young and in love and hot for each is no guarantee that in two years you'll still feel the same.
I personally don't think you need to feel guilty. And I don't think it is the worst sin, either. I'd like to see sex used less as an entertainment and more like an expression of love, or at least affection, though.
2007-03-19 02:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally did'nt feel guilty about it but then again I married my husband I was not just sleeping around.I think if you are having pre-marital sex with the person that you are going to marry then I think it is ok.If you are just sleeping around then I think that is wrong..
2007-03-19 02:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never feel guilty for doing something that you enjoyed with a person you love...if you love each other and it was fun then you shouldnt feel guilty
but if it was with someone who you didint love then you should feel guilty
you get this!=)
well yeah dont feel guilty if you love him/her
hopw your wedding is fun!
2007-03-19 02:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had plenty of it and never felt a moment of guilt. If you really care about the person, why on earth should you?
2007-03-19 02:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilty of what?
have done it and we get married after , make 10 years now...
2007-03-19 02:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, it is very important to know your partner intimately before you get married. Religious traditions that tell us otherwise are outdated and irrational.
2007-03-19 02:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the saying.. gotta try the milk before you buy the cow. you could get stuck in a bad situation if you don't. waiting is a good choice too though.
2007-03-19 02:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.No, we shouldn't feel guilty at all. You are adults and it is consensual.It's an important part of bonding . No one should feel guilty
2007-03-19 07:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if your you think it is wrong.
I don't think it is wrong, I had no guilt for having sex before marriage.
2007-03-19 02:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋