Broken Heart?

Question

my husband ani were married 25 years, he became terminally ill,in 2005, i took care of him for 22 months until he passed away at home in 2006, its been 15 months, he was only 54 years old, i thought i was doing ok, when wham, it comes at me full forse, i miss him so much, i loved him so much,i would do anything for one more day.. some times i think this oain will never stop,it hurts so bad, it really is like your heart is broken,i went to counciling before his death, to prepare me ,but you cannot prepare no matter how hard you try.if anyone is, or has gone through the same thing maybe you can tell me how to move on,,sincerly mary

Answer 1

You wrote in one of your answers that you thought we had a lot in common and I think we have more than you even thought. I lost my husband three and a half years ago suddenly. I can`t tell you how to move on really I can just tell you that it gets a little easier and moves from pain to a dull ache that I don`t think will ever be gone. We were married for 36 years when he went to work and had a sudden heart attack.

Answer 2

Mary,
I just want to tell you how sorry i am for your loss and i really dont know what to say to make the pain go away I have never lost a man that i loved to something like this but my mother died of cancer and it is something that you arent ever truely prepared for it is just something that you know is going to happen and as for me i just took one day at a time and in time it will get better,but you have to stay busy and continue to live and meet new people and do the right things for you and possibly try to meet people that have gone through what you have gone through and in time god willing you may find peace with it.I do know what it is to have a broken heart though and i just dont know if you can ever get over that either but just keep your head up and talk about it any which way you can and someday it will get better i wish you the best cecilia

Answer 3

OMG! that is sooo sad. i cant say what to do cuz im not in your shoes and a husband or wife dying would be much different than anything else, but i was EXTREMELY close with my grandfather, when my mom and dad divorced he came 2000 miles to help take care of us kids and even moved here that was when i was 5, so he was kinda like another dad, and the only thing that has helped me is time, nothing anyone said or did or the medication or anything, i still cry daily but its not like it was, just think about what he would want you to do, if he saw you now, what would he say? i will pray for you cuz i know how bad it hurts to lose someone you love and is an everyday part of your life

Answer 4

I can't tell you enough how sorry I am for you. I know things will get better but that doesn't help. I really don't know what to tell you when I lost my husband I thought my chest was going to cave in. The pain was so bad I couldn't even stand upright.
I know this sounds crazy but he wouldn't want you to live like this.

Answer 5

Sorry about your husband..!

you don't have to feel so down, and broken hearted, if you truly love him, even though he dies, you will still love him,,! your bodies may not be together but your spirits are holding forever,!

if you feel that way he may not be happy about that, because he loves you and wants you to be happy, you should be happy for him because he is now on the posession of our creator and living there happily there are times like that but we have to accept the truth. strive to be happy,

till death do as part

Answer 6

he has passed away.you did all you could to take care of him.you have your life to live ,you're still young .you are alone that's why you're feeling this way .you should go out to meet new people .i know it hurts but you've really got to forget the past and think about the future.good luck.