there are these ppl i work with ... actually they are below me buti think they may have an inferiority complex? but they always give me attitude and i just end up getting exasperated and pissed off. how can i retain my cool and put them in place....PLEASE really need help with this! i am not naturally bossy but usually ppl just listen to me coz they are supposed to but these women just drive me up the wall! HELP!
2007-03-19 01:54:18 · 6 answers · asked by woodland park 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I will start by saying that what you are aiming at is not an easy feat. You want to balance the equation. As i analyze your question, you want to solve two problems:
1.) How to make yourself more adamant against these
people?
2.) How to make yourself look more strong-willed?
To both, i give you one answer: PRETEND.
So, what makes this a good answer?
1.) When you envision a strong persona and pretend to yourself that you have that trait, EVENTUALLY you will inbibe that trait.
2.) I used to have the same problems and through this method, i became stronger and now I'm the predator and no longer the prey.
So, how will you do this?
Its simple, just follow this steps:
1.) Envision what you want to be.
2.) Ask yourself why you have to (or want to) change yourself.
3.) Establish the fact that you are doing this for YOURSELF and not for others as the benefits of this strategy will not linger if you think or establish otherwise.
4.) Establish to yourself that you are a person that needs to be respected. You are a person who CAN make things happen. These people are underestimating you and you prove them wrong.
5.) Envision how these people often deal with you and draw a mental script that will detail your plan of action whenever they begin to push you again against the wall.
6.) Practice this mental script.
7.) When you think you are ready then start to play the part of the strong individual that you want to be.
I believe that by this, you will be stronger. This is what i did and it worked for me. Practice this little by little and if you are able to blend this strategy with the culture of the place and the culture of the people that you work with you will be successful. Assuming on the point that since it worked for me, it might work for you.
2007-03-19 04:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by whamos17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstance behind it. No one on earth has every ones approval,
Unless you have done something to directly piss them off at you well there probably isn't any thing you can do to change it.
There are ways of handling it.
Deal with every thing the first time, don't let things slide until you get pissed.
Don't take every thing they do seriously. I mean if they are just rolling their eyes and muttering under their breath ignore it and chalk it up to they are unhappy in their job.
If they are being out right rude and mouthy and refusing to do their work well write them up.
Nine times out of ten these 5 or 6 ladies are friends and only one of them have a real problem with you. you need to figure out which one that is and directly ask her exactly what her problem is. Be prepared to listen to it and then ask her.
How are we going to fix this? I would prefer that you not lose your job but I refuse to put up with this any more. Make suggestions and ask for hers.
Keep the conversation private. And no matter how pissed you get, there can be no type of retaliation brought forth by you due to what is said during this conversation.
Part of being a boss, is putting up with this kind of stuff you just have to remain professional and deal with them as a professional.
2007-03-26 01:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are they reacting like that? Are you making them feel inferior? are you asking too much of them? Do you criticize them constantly? Do they they not understand what's expected of them? If no, then maybe calmly ask them what annoys them so much. Try to be accepting of criticism as much as possible. In the end you should all be there to do your jobs and should respect each others roles in the company.
2007-03-25 12:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Basil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You attractive merely the way you're and that i i be attentive to everybody says that yet its genuine!even in the experience that your no longer what the magazines say is "pleasing" dont even project while you're overjoyed with who you're and are a variety and worrying guy or woman you will glow! Even the prettiest female has a flaw so do no longer rigidity attempting to be appropriate. You cant please everybody! you do no longer must be conventionally pleasing weighing 50kg and be 180cm tall its no longer organic and thats no longer so pleasing in case you question me. merely be advantageous to be great to everybody and worrying and function a great character and your gonna glow.
2016-10-19 01:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up boxing, it's like Zen when Your in the zone and You don't get angry anymore. It's cool, time distorts too, try it, You'll see.
2007-03-19 02:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow............................
2007-03-19 02:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋