do you ever wish you could see how your life wouldve been if you had made a different decision? like my parents split when i was 9 but sometimes i wish i could see what it wouldve been like if they hadnt. even if it was just to reinforce the feeling that im better where i am.
2007-03-19 01:28:48 · 9 answers · asked by LusT aFter INsaNIty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Last year I left my ex-husband and went back home to my mum and bro.
2 days after I moved home my mum suffered a brain hemorage,
then her alcoholic partner left her,
my brother needed money to get to uni,
my mum was signed off work and getting very little benefits,
I was unemployed.
I met someone, but didnt want a relationship - he was persistant to be friends at least.
I went into debt to get my bro to uni,
met this guy and fell for him,
got a job,
moved my bro to london for uni.
New guy then lost his job.
Then my mum left me.
Went to live with my new mans parents and him,
only to be told this month they're splitting and selling the house.
1 income,
New guy is part time studying to better his skills for new job
I now have pets I was left with when mum went
So therefor struggling to find a new home.
All since 11th june 2006, that means this has all happended in 9 months and 8 days. Oh well at least you cant say my life's boring! lol. Only 3 good things from all this, my divorce, my new found love (I never thought I'd be with someone again!) and my bro's in uni, making a better life for himself.
Sometimes I pause and think - If I had stayed with my ex, maybe I wouldnt be in this mess now, but you know what? I wouldnt change it for the world!!! I love my new guy, and as long as we stick together and are happy, we'll be fine.
Here's to a happy ending hey?......
2007-03-19 01:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe lots of us do. Each of us has regrets in our life and there are lots of what ifs...
What if I did this and that?
What if I do, what would have happen?
I think every thing we do, everything we decide is a big decision. Each of our decision even those we consider small once will affect our life and before we knew it, it changes the direction of our sail in life.
Although regrets cannot be change, and that we cannot go back in time and do something about those decision we think was wrong, we just have to live through it and learn from it.
And that the next time something like that, or almost the same problem would come once again, then we know how to face it,
regarding your parents split up... I believe every person who's parent did not end up with each other wanted the same thing as you, wanted those what ifs. But that is something we did not decide, its your parents decision... although it affects you when they decide that, you cannot do something about it since your parents feels that they need too.
Maybe its something both of your parents wanted and needed.
Or if you want, try to ask them why they did it. In that sense you'll be able to understand things, and why this things happens to you.
2007-03-19 08:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I wonder that all the time. My Mum died when I was 16 and an awful chain of events followed due to my dad remarrying a total cow. I was living alone at 17 and went from one bad situation to another, craving happiness but always being kicked in the guts my someone.
My life has worked out OK now though, I moved abroad and married with my 1st baby on the way, but I always wonder if my Mum hadn't died how different my life would have been, doubt any of the awful things would have happened to me as she would have protected me. Saying that, the things I have been through have moulded me into the person I am today and I truly belive I'm a better, stronger and more understanding person because of it!!!
Great question!!
2007-03-19 08:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question but I don't know if I'l like to see that or not. What if you had made the wrong decision, found out the other decision was better but couldn't do anything about it and was stuck with the decision knowing it was wrong.
2007-03-19 08:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two rules:
1. never think about the past in a negative light
2.always be positive about the future.
You can't change the past, and you can do anything you want in the future - it's up to you to make it happen!!!
Things can only get better if you're feeling down, so good luck, and I'm sure things work out well for you :-)
2007-03-19 08:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!!!
i made a big decision about a year ago.
I had a boyfriend who id split with but i really loved him he wanted me back but i said no as i was with sum1 and now im feeling like i still want to be with my ex cause i love him still and always think about him
But i suppose you cant really change the past aye
xx
2007-03-19 08:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Elektra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear kirsty, every one in the world has some regrets thats human and we tend to make mistakes.but we have to learn from these ,like you shouldn't do what your dad did and let not your friends too.hope i ain't preaching.
2007-03-19 08:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you fully.
good question. there are many times i've thought this and always wonder if "the grass is greener?" - i've learnt it seldom is.
;D
2007-03-19 08:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitley. i had a few experien ces that happened when i was younger. and i wonder how my life would be if they never happened.
2007-03-19 08:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by da_fynest_boricua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋