7 mths ago I moved to another province with my fiance to better his job .I got transferred as well so there was no interuption of income , My problem is I really like it here but I have lived in the same province all my life & thats where my family & friends are I have made friends here but its not the same. I dont know if a fresh new start is best or if we should work on going back home I am so confused by this & we are at the point of purchasing a home Im not excited ,but at the prospect of going home & buying one makes me very happy! Coming here was a new begining & we left the old memories some not so good with our ex's & a chance to have a place to call ours but.. I cant settle it seems I mean even if we were to be within reach of the family & friends .as it is now we need to travel for 5 hours just to see them & they cant afford to come to us..any suggestions as you can tell I am very confused by this, Thanks
2007-03-19 01:11:59 · 5 answers · asked by angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard leaving that safety net, but 7 months is not enough time to tell (just as it took longer than that to build those bonds at home). If you are feeling unsure, why don't you hold off on buying a home for a while longer and give it a bit more time. If you have the mindset that you don't want it to work out there though, trust me that it won't. It's up to you to either decide to make it work or not.
You're also not all that far away. If things do work out, you'll have the enjoyment of going to visit, from time to time, and that's definitely something to look forward to.
2007-03-19 01:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Plexed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be the most important person in your world, and you should be the most important in his. So, I think you two made the right choice in moving. However, I think you should agree together to put it into your budget to make several trips back "home" to see family and friends. Because these times will be fewer, they will be that much more special. You two can decide how often and long these "mini-visits" can be.
Good luck, relax, and enjoy your new start.
2007-03-19 01:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk this over with your fiance and tell him how you feel. and if he feels the same way. but I think you need to give it time, you will find out that you will be meeting different people and have new friends. you can always talk to the old ones, and when you both have time you can always go and visit. good luck.
2007-03-19 01:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tina, my best advice is to follow your heart. Remember, your'e not a kid anymore, you are an adult getting ready for marriage. Family should come second now. Your career and your future husband should come first.
2007-03-19 01:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by Guess Who 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use the phone and internet to connect with your family and friends, a new move isn't always great to start off with but you'll eventually adapt to your environment
2007-03-19 01:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋