we have been together for two years and during that time, we have had our fair share of arguments and bickering, but never once did I doubt our love for one another. he is 13 years younger than me and I was always worried that would come back to bite me in the a** but he always said he didnt care about that and i believe that really was the case. I do believe that for better or worse, we loved each other and still do.
In the last couple of months, we had some stupid arguments. Both of us are incredibly stubborn and hurt easily and wouldn't back down. He said he was tired of it and wanted to end it. He said that as much as he loved me, he no longer believed in us. A few weeks ago, he got offered a job out of town (in another part of the country) for three months. we both felt that maybe the time apart would do us good and agreed to consider it a separation, but not the end of the relationship. He told me at the airport that he loved me and then flew away...
2007-03-19 01:10:16 · 4 answers · asked by why 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since then he has cut off all ties. I reached him yesterday and he said it was over and he didn't want to be with me anymore. He said not to call or write him. I am devastated. I still think he is just lost and needs time, but I want so much to be together as I really love him and he says he loves me.
What can one do when it seems it is almost too late? I can't accept that this is the way it will end. He is my best friend and I know that he cares - I see he needs time, but i don't want him to slip away.
2007-03-19 01:13:29 · update #1
should i just do as he says and stop calling and stop writing? won't breaking all contact make us farther apart? I miss him so much! how will I ever do this?
2007-03-19 01:21:37 · update #2
Interesting why one of you would say he found someone his own age. I don't think so. Age was never an issue and I don't believe it has to be.
Also, maybe he has moved on, but I am not so sure. I think he is hurt and trying to find the right way, but we always had a great connection and I truly feel it isn't over yet. This isn't naivety, but confidence in what we had. I can't throw it away or watch him do so as long as I feel there is something there - for both of us, not just me. I believe that the faith of one can sometimes hold a relationship together through a rough patch.
The real question is this: What do I do in the meantime? Do I wait until he contacts me? Or wait a while, then contact him and if so, how long and in what way- in writing, sms, by phone?
What next???
2007-03-19 05:16:54 · update #3
Based on what you wrote, I think it is pretty clear that this man is no longer interested in you and the relationship is over. The best thing you could do is move on. He will most likely start to date (if he hasn't already) a girl closer to his own age.
Life is too short to chase after people who don't love you back. Actions speak louder then words.....
2007-03-19 01:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the old saying still remains true that says
if you love something (or someone) set them free
if they come back to you their yours and if they do not
then they never truly were yours to begin with
2007-03-19 01:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the seperation will be good at this point, don't give up on him, don't give up on love
2007-03-19 01:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he is over you; time for you to get over him as well
2007-03-19 01:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋