my parents dont like me being a lesbian and they think it's wrong and it is in ways and i'm only 15 years old..i had a girlfriend in august of last year when they found out they gave me a big lecture and told me to stay away from her well i didnt know what to say so i broke up with her and now i'm dating another girl whom i love with all my heart and i dont want my family to find out and make me give her up cause i dont want to..what should i do? should i tell my parents or keep her a secret?
2007-03-19 01:00:04 · 7 answers · asked by ford_girl<3 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ask yourself how smart do you think you are and how stupid do you think your parents are?
You're 15. You live with them. They feel responsible for you, and rightly so. Keeping secrets from them will cause suspicion, which is already present due to your prior relationship. They will know something is up, which will make your life a living hell due to you secretive ways.
Now you don't have to be doomed, even if they are hesitant to accept it. The ball is in your court. You control the outcome no matter what anyone else says or does. I suggest you pick one parent and talk one on one. Tell your parent you are what you are and that you are counting on them to help you be the very best lesbian the planet has ever seen. Reaffirm that no matter what you still need them and that your not about to run off and do something sordid.
2007-03-19 01:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Unfortunately, I think you would have to keep this secret and bring it up to them when you are older and out of the house. Parents want the best for their children, so it may not even be that they are against you being a lesbian so much as they don't want you having problems with society. But they may be against the homosexual thing as well. Sometimes, a lot of times with families, there has to be an adjustment period.
2007-03-19 08:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such reaction from parents is quite common for us LGBT people. You need to understand that there is nothing "wrong" with you per se. It is how they perceive the subject that is skewed. Feel confident of yourself, and be prepared to face the odds. Coming out is perhaps one of the most difficult things we go through, especially if our families are not willing to even listen to our point of view. Maybe your parents need to meet others like you, others who have accepted their sexuality, and also their parents to understand how they have coped with the fact. If you really love the girl, make sure you protect your love this time from societal pressures. You will face a lot of opposition, but that is just a test of your strength as a person, and of your conviction in yourself. If you need support, find out about organizations in your area that help LGBT people in distress. They will be able to guide and counsel your parents if necessary. You are young, and that is the biggest advantage you can ask for right now. Don't lose courage, do what you feel will be right for you in the long term. It's not easy to choose between what your parents believe is correct, and what you know is right for you. But when you make that choice, don't ever look back and regret whatever you chose. All the very best, and hope your parents will support you in the end.
2007-03-19 08:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, until you get a job and your own place and become independant - you gotta live by your parents' rules. That's just the way the cookie crumbles - we all had to go through it. You have three more years of being a kid - enjoy them!! VERY few people are still with the person they were dating when they were 15 anyway.
2007-03-19 08:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be publically affectionate with your girlfriend---just keep your dignity and your privacy and keep your personal life personal until you are out of your parents house. It might help to find a straight-acting couple of gay men to double-date with from time to time, but don't overdo it. I'm not telling you to get into or out of anyone's closet---just keep your love life private while you live in the home of your parents, who seem to be dead-set against one aspect of who you are. That doesn't mean they don't love you very much.
2007-03-19 08:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are under their roof and under age, there isn't much you can do, other than sacrificing your education for another...
Deal with it and mind their requests...you only have three more yrs to go.
You'll be back on your knees in no time
2007-03-19 08:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sweety just keep it under the rug honey.. they don't understand you and they never will. if they do thats good but i woulded keep my hopes up.
2007-03-19 10:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♥lois c♥ ☺♥♥♥☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋