I met a girl two months back and then we started going out..she told me in the begining that he's into serious relationship with a guy who's now lives in a different city. n when i told her to finish things up between us if she couldn't leave him then she started crying and said sh loves me too and cant live without me..
But then i told her to make a choice between him and me so she says she doesn't know whom to chose as she's dating that guy for the last 2years and i've met her only 2months back.
I tried leaving her but couldnt as our friend circle is common and we'r in same campus so get to meet often.
I seem to be lost with absolutely no plans in mind about what could be the solution to this situation..i can not leave her as i love her alot and even she says she can't live without me..
Please i need ur help people..i'll be highly greatful to u if u could help me in this..
2007-03-19 00:47:03 · 15 answers · asked by black_torniquet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you cannot love two people at the same time. She may have feelings for you both, but the fact is if she started dating you while she was already dating someone else, she has no respect or love for either of you. When you truly love someone, you wouldn't have it in your heart to betray them the way she is betraying her first boyfriend and she woudn't have it in her heart to torture you the way she is torturing you. Do you seriously feel okay with the idea that your girl is choosing between you and someone else? Doesn't that tick you off? Doesn't it break your heart to think that sometimes she is with this other guy, getting intimate with him, and pining over him when she's not? Is this really okay with you? You are being treated crappy and she is playing with you. Why would you want to be with her? It would be no contest for me, she would be dumped so fast she wouldn't know what hit her. She can live without you because when she is making love to this other guy, she is not thinking about YOU and if she is, she is really sick and twisted.
2007-03-19 01:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may travel in the same circles, but you don't have to walk around in one, aimlessly. She doesn't know what she wants, clearly, and might even be playing one or both of you for the proverbial fool. A mature, loving person in this situation would leave the ex and not jump straight into a relationship with you, after only two months. You've said you're on campus. Enjoy the scenery....and other people. Tell her you're moving on until she is free to make better choices. It's up to her, but you can have these simple terms. Don't settle for leftovers.
2007-03-19 00:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing bad or wrong with dating other people at the same time..it's their business.
you've only known someone and you think you love them and you dont even know their heart or mind or anything else for that matter probably or you would be the only one she wants to get to know or be with for all time...and vice versa
a big crush and puppy love is tough emotionally sometimes huh?
you can love as many as your heart desires to love...you dont have to physically do or say anything about it and sometimes you cannot.
you dont tell people to make a choice between people they love and you have no right. It's their choice ...every litlte thing in life is a choice...a very personal choice.
you or anyone does not own another and dont ever expect to.
we are humans, not human slaves to be told what we can and cannot do and who and who not to love, like or hate.
learn and open your mind..you will be bigger and better for it and maybe respected more...
2007-03-19 01:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is incredibly difficult to decide who you want to be with in situations as this; however it is best for her to decide who will be a close friend and who is a boyfriend. To answer your question, it is absolutely possible to love multiple people, and in most minds it seems to degrade someone to call someone you've kissed or loved deeply simply a friend. If she loves you, you must show her that you love her with all your heart. In many of my personal cases, I have had "lovers" who simply wanted attention, and now they are just close friends. A lover is someone who you believe you can spend your WHOLE life with, not just a situation where you can help them through a simple struggle that can be easily overcame.
2007-03-19 00:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Saunders C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your pick:
1) She likes you, but is not sure about the relationship enough to end her other relationship.
2) She's treating you as a replacement for her other boyfriend.
3) She likes you but doesn't have the heart to tell her long time lover.
2007-03-19 01:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you are in very big trouble....but what I will suggest is stop thinking much about her....cause still she have an option to choose between two guys and for you things are different for you...so let her know you both more than decide whose hand she wants to hold for life. but still you are lucky that she is not hiding things from you she cares for you and have some feelings that's the only reason she told you everything...
let her decide, then think about her...
"if she comes to you then she is always yours and she dont then she never loved u"
2007-03-19 01:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by jimmychris_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as unbelievable as it might sound, YES!
only thing is, you can never love 2 different people them in the same way. if she loves you both, it's because she loves different things about both of you.
what you could do, is find out what you lack that the other dude has. that is if you really want her to yourself.
2007-03-19 01:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by chopstix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to be in love with two. One may have two women that one loves, and both are equally the most important people in one's life.
2007-03-19 00:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you can't love two people at the same time.
2007-03-19 00:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course u can love two poele at a time! But most of the time if you are going out with someone then you shouldn't tell them that you like them and someone else!
2007-03-19 00:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋