If you could go back in time what part of your life would you change?

Question

I once spent a lump sum of money foolishly. I would take a list with me of things I planned to do with it. Would probably still have some left.

Answer 1

I don't think that I would change anything.

I learned a lot during this life especially from my screw ups, so I would not change any of them.

love and blessings Don

Answer 2

Interesting question....about a year ago, I was working with a tutor whom I got very attached to. I wouldn't change the love that developed nor the attachment but what I would change was the amount of time I spent with him which made my family and my husband very jealous. The critical time, as far as I can tell, came about last June I would have diversified my tutoring with some others and/or just studyed less. In June I think i went from about 10-15 hours / week (I was also in formal language school 20 hours/week plus homework another 5 hours, tutor would often help me with the homework) and in June increased time with tutor steadily, perhaps 15-20/week, 20-25 in July, steady at 12-14 hours on weekends and another 5-10 during the week....plus we had many strange experiences together that bonded our hearts as well. It was an amazing friendship but in late September my husband layed down the law and though I was allowed some time in October that was the END. No more contact allowed, period.

If I had been more careful; perhaps limiting time together to 4-10 hours on weekends and perhaps 2-4 during the week, likely we'd still be outward friends. Now we're reduced to being friends in heart and mind only not really friends, a strange thing...but we will be life-time friends for sure.

Answer 3

I know the "right" answer here is to say, "Nope. I wouldn't change a thing." But I cannot say that with conscience and mean it.
I would go back ten years ago to when I was 14 and tell my grandmother I loved her. I would hold her dry, yellowed figure in my arms and tell her I always loved her, and that she was beautiful and special and she contributed to the woman I would be one day.
I was so afraid of her when she got her brain cancer, that I couldn't even look at her...and I never told her I loved her from the day I found out she had it till 29 days later when she died of it.
I would have run to my mother the day my grandmother died and cried in her arms. My mom and I were distanced because I had such a hard time coping with my grandmother's death....we needed each other, and we didn't realize it at the time. I was just a stupid girl.
It is my greatest regret. What I wouldn't do to change that time...

Answer 4

I would stay at home one day in late August 1981 and I would call an ambulance. Getting my Mam to hospital a lot earlier than she went might have lessened the effect of the massive stroke.

I would tell Dad to go for tests for Parkinsons Disease in 1985 as soon as we noticed the tremor so that he might have been diagnosed earlier.

I would have ignored family pressure for me to leave school at 16 (honestly, an aunt told me off for even thinking I would be doing anything more than wasting everyone's time, seeing as how I was so stupid and useless) and stayed to do my Os and As then hopefully went on to university.

Had I been able to change all that, I possibly wouldn't have had to spend so many years caring for both my parents (my choice and I'd do it again ... if I had to) and would have had the career I wanted - interpreter/translator; I had dreams of working at the UN. Now, instead of a career, I'm a carer.

Answer 5

I might have finished college the first time, instead of dropping out and having to go back. But if I had done that, I'd have never met my wonderful wife. So I feel the jigsaw of my life is interlocked in a way that, had I changed one thing, I'd not have the life I have now. And that might not be a good thing.

Answer 6

Probably my personality, I'll never put my money into waste, and I'll make my family proud. I'll be a good kid, I'll never make them angry again with me. I don't want them to hate me for that. So, that's it. I'll change every inch of my life if only I could go back in time. That's my impossible dream since I was little, 'cuz I know that it wouldn't come true no matter what I do. It's a childish dream of mine that is still here in my heart, it will never change.

Answer 7

The most central part of my being, for this is the part that makes me spend so lavishly upon all the rest. And after being so busy catering for the needs of the peripherals, and having not been able to feed properly, it is always hungry. And if I were to go back in time, according to your formula, then go I will properly, to see if I evolved right into my present from, a form that needs to stand such heavy responsibilities of self-care. Could this be that I could have stayed put in the ocean, in the laps of abundance and profusion, wave after wave? I need to know what I need to put right. So, if you have one spare return for the time-train please let my have that, I’ll be much obliged.

Answer 8

This would be difficult becuase changing one thing may lead to other less desirable things. The old "if you go back in time and kill a butterfly" belief.

I would not marry...but then I would not have my children....I would finish school but then I would not of had the adventures I had with my job....

So...for fear of loosing the wonderful things in my life I would not change things and I do believe those things that do not kill us only make us stronger....and wiser

Answer 9

Absolutely nothing.... All i have done in my life, all the experiences, has made me the person i am today. And i have experienced both good and bad. All those people i've met that has made a difference to my life in one way or another... No i wouldnt want to go back and change anything.

Answer 10

I would go back to freshman year in college and NOT get involved with my first boyfriend. I didn't need the distraction of his constant drama, and I would have had more fun in college. My whole perspective on dating and relationships was pretty much soured by that very first relationship.