I still love my ex husband. We barely talk anymore. He called me about a week ago. Saying he was sorry and he knows he messed up and bla.bla.bla but didn't directly say he wanted to resolve probelms ( we are divorced no children ) I hung up on him and said That this was too hard for me and I could never forgive him and said bye. Two days later his current GF calls me asking what's his deal still with me, I told her there was nothing there anymore. and she told me he is moving in w/ her and so on and so on and pretty much complaining on him? saying he's a bad liar, saying he's not that good hearted person whatever. So then she tells me the only reason why he married me was because she broke up with me one day prior to that. (so confusing)
But that's a short verison, so after that he calls me up and tells me he hates me and that he wants no part of me, and hes trying to move on, i got fiesty and said I already moved on, and i dont care. but in reality i haven't and i still do?
2007-03-18 23:44:25 · 9 answers · asked by SexyMama18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh good Lord. Get over it and stop the DRAMA!!! Change your phone number and he can't call. Don't talk to the guy or his girlfriend. Find another man. That should be enough for you to move on and forget all of that crap! Godlovya.
2007-03-18 23:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying in the world, and I truly think it fits perfectly in this situation, and I think it applies to both of you, not just you. I THINK THOU DOST PROTEST TOO MUCH!
In other words, you both keep lying to yourselves, and that's why you are having problems facing the truth and telling each other how you really feel. If this other woman wasn't in the picture, what would you really say to him? What do you really want to say? What's truly holding you back? Don't let it be the world, or this other woman. Is she what's stopping you from telling him the real truth? There are several things to ask yourselves here...
Why did you get married in the first place?
Was each of you a good spouse/life partner?
Are either of you capable of changing to meet the needs of the other person without considering your own needs first? Are either of you, or both of you selfish in any way?
Do either of you have a relationship of any kind with GOD?
Is GOD at the center of your individual lives and hearts?
And was He ever at the center of your marriage as He should have been.
I know that's hard to do, but it's necessary if you expect to truly make a marriage last a lifetime. If you can't answer these questions, please seek help from someone who can help you understand what you need to do to get your own heart and life in order before you try and accept anyone into your life, including your ex-husband. Emotional baggage will only cause problems in any new relationship. Even if it's with an ex-spouse.
Please remember,
GOD hates divorce, not the divorcee. But in His eyes, you two are still married. The law of the land is second to GOD's law. So GOD would like to see a reconciliation just as much as you obviously do as long as your husband wasn't a drugged up, drunken wife beater that used you for an emotional, physical or spiritual punching bag. You're GOD's daughter, and He wants only the very best for you. So make sure you let GOD give you His best, instead of searching for it from some man. We can't do that for you. Only GOD can. Keep that in mind with everything you do in your life, and never let it fade from your thoughts, and your relationships will get stronger and stronger, and will stay that way. Don't break the law of the land. But obey GOD's law's first. Thank you for reading this. Hope it helps. Let me know. GOD BLESS!
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2007-03-19 03:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by videodj2006@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read your question again and pretend as if it's from your best gf..
Now I will point out a few things...
blah, blah, blah..
hung up on him...
too hard for me..
I could never forgive him...(your biggest clue...)
told her there was nothing there anymore..
he's a bad liar..
not that good hearted person..
short version! .........( really?WOW!)
he hates me...(another clue...)
wants no part of me... clue 3
I ALREADY MOVED ON............. the end...
MOVE ON and all will be Great..
DO NOT call or accept any more calls change # and maybe address.. (location, city, part of the country?)
theres a whole world waiting for you out there...
this should be all you need to know...
Good luck
2007-03-18 23:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prbably your ex was just trying to move on in his on way. That is why he apologise. The gf finds out and said bad things to you and possibly make your ex calls again to say he hate you. I suggest you just move on. The fact that they are moving in together your ex is unlikely to resolve the problems. Girl, let him n his gf be..Move on with life.And for the statement his gf said, just let it go she probably is too insecure enough.
2007-03-18 23:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for you to change your phone number, this man is so messed up in the head, dont let him lead you on he only caress for hisself good luck
2007-03-19 00:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already been given lots of sensible advice....so I won't write long.
Take time to heal yourself and forget about him.
Take care of yourself.....
If you don't love and respect yourself first, you cannot expect someone else to love and respect you. Good luck.
2007-03-22 17:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're a dee dee dee and the both of you need to move on and get laid
2007-03-18 23:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort urself out and quick
2007-03-18 23:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really haven't, but should.
2007-03-18 23:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋