We both have great jobs. Currently I make more money, but that could change shortly (husbands pending promotion). He will have better career opportunities in our current city of residence. I would have a better future half way across the country. We both want careers and childrena re not part of our future plans. Who winns?
2007-03-18 23:35:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not both? If you are married, which husband implies, why not work together toward a common goal, rather than dispute who gets to make more money? I do not see your husband holding his money over your head, nor do I see you doing so. Marraige should be mutually beneficial in all respects, and money should scarcely be a problem, especially who makes it. Work together, if he has a better position now, short and long term, then maybe he should. If you can get a better one on the other side of the continent, and moving does not bother either of you, then maybe you should move. But work together. May your futures be bright, and may the stars light your path....
2007-03-18 23:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lost Ranger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. If you are going to play the asset card then you need to start thinking like a partnership. He's going to be loathe to leave a promotion. The opportunities halfway across the country will always be there. And should you decide to play that card then whatever experience you gain in the interim will only enhance your opportunities.
Decide on a number you want to strive for as an income. Which combination provides that?
Try to view your earning potentials objectively and find the path that meets your mutual goals.
Try to remember that not everything happens at once in Life. There is a sequence and a rhythm. Make a decision and enjoy where you are now in Life, with your partner. Keep the well being of your relationship as a priority and you will find that the choices you make foster happiness, which is not a commodity either of your incomes can purchase.
2007-03-18 23:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is totally up to you and your husband in this case since there are no children planned. No one wins in this case. If it were me i would let my husband have the career and i would take the lesser job and just help out or even try a career somewhere in your local area so you would not have to move. I would love my husband enough and be selfless enough to do this for him but that is just me and what I would do. Talk to each other and come to some kind of agreement or compromise and work on this together. Good luck to you both.
2007-03-18 23:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you both lose. Marriage should not be a competition. In order for it to work out, you both need to be willing to give, instead of trying to compete for who's career is the most important. Why not take turns deciding which career to follow?
2007-03-19 05:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy in your current location I would say stay where you are. It sounds like you both of good opportunities there - whether his outweigh yours or not. Although you may feel like you have better opportunities somewhere else, no one says that is where you will be happy. If you do feel unhappy - then that is something you should both discuss. As far as "who wins?" - it would be unfair to say he should win because he's the man and vice versa. As long as you're both happy with each other and life in general - it doesn't matter who makes more money - you both win.
2007-03-18 23:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is when it comes to some sort of compromise! Is it about money, job satisfaction, general well being? My partner and I might run into this problem one of these days, so we've discussed the issue. His priority? Money, but it doesn't have to be the most. Mine? Job satisfaction. Who wins? Me, because his is more flexible.
Of course that's the simple hypothetical situation. Talk it out.
2007-03-18 23:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have no intention of having kids, and are not caring much about your marriage because you don't talk about compromising, you might as well have your careers in different parts of the country.
2007-03-19 01:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be you. Most to the one who doesn't care who is above who because you should be working together for one common goal not to compete
2007-03-18 23:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by omiluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason for the traditional method.
2007-03-19 00:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage should be abt who wins in their career. set career aside when it comes to ur relationship. that ll destroy ur home wit time. watch it
2007-03-18 23:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by joddie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋