Is this something that I need to give her room with, or is is something that I need to cut off now. We've been married since 9/6/05.
2007-03-18 22:55:28 · 28 answers · asked by tindale332 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fact of the matter from a woman;she took you as her husband and she should have no problem giving this up for her marriage and for her husband.no good can come of this,either they see each other as the ones that got away or friendship whatever,you are or should be first in her life other than children.marriages are hard to last when others are in them,parents,friends,ex's and all(from both partners)you and her should be best friends as well as lovers and everything that no one ealse can be.everyone has problems sometimes but is he going to be a friend to the both of you to help point her back to her husband in a time when she may be weak ? is he looking out for himself in there friendship?she may think he is just a friend but you know guys have a way of swaing a womans best judgment.you need to talk with her about this and let her know how you feel and if it comes to it i would suggest that she not talk with him.but you need to come into the conversation calm and try to find out what she talks with him about let her know you would like to listen and be a friend to her(really listen even when sports are on..lol)let her know you want to hear about what matters to her.maybe she don't understand men and she is trying to.maybe it is male attention she needs(not sexual)and one major thing for a man to get a woman to talk is ;be gentle and calm and listen,don't get in deffense mode,this will be hard to pull off when it involves another man .but try because these things shut a woman down and you will never know.....
2007-03-18 23:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by msknowing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why they are talking. If they share a child, then they would have to communicate. How your wife, or husband treats their ex's is very important. If they treat them like they are less than human, then they will eventually treat you the same. Its something I am looking for in a person when I get into a serious relationship. How they treat their ex's.
2007-03-18 23:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem. My ex even wanted to invite him to the weddding reception and was emailing him and such. I wouldn't doubt if they are planning on getting married today. At the time I was so immature and jeolous, I kind of wish I hadn't played that card. But in all honesty, just be cool about it. Don't empower her with jeolousy, a useless emotion in my opinion. Just tell her in a kind way it bothers you. Ask her how she would feel if you were in close connection with one of your ex's. Maybe she wouldn't care, who knows. Sounds like she is kind of immature in my opinion and certainly not very sensitive to your feelings. My ex was alot like that. Goodluck. Not a good way to start a relationship. I know, because mine didn't survive.
2007-03-18 23:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried being brutally honest with her? "Look, honey, I'm really tired of you talking to your ex boyfriend. It hurts my feelings and makes me think that you wished you had never married me. I don't want doing it anymore. You're my wife and I love you. Enough already!" She may be waiting for you to be man enough to put a stop to it. You're not getting any respect, Dude.
That should do it. Godloveya.
2007-03-18 23:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married for a while, so I'm guessing it has been many years since she's been with this guy. It's probably just friendly. Do you have any reason to think she is cheating? If you do, you could hire an investigator to put your mind at ease (or expose the truth).
2007-03-18 23:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why this guy is an EX. There must be at least one good reason for them not being together.
And ask her if she wants him back.
If she says no, then ask her to not contact him at all and tell her it bothers you to listen to her talk about him.
If she doesn't want to stop it, then ask her how she would feel if you were always talking about a special ex-girlfriend.
Usually, when we see things from the other person's shoes, they change...
Good luck.
2007-03-22 17:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to please stop talking to him so much. Why does she feel the need to have contact with him? Do they have a child together or something like that? Have you asked her nicely to stop and if they have a child they have to talk at times as they do share a child but it should only be about the child if this is the case. Good luck to you. Is she talking to him with your around or does she do this behind hyour back and in secret?
2007-03-18 23:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off now. Tell her clearly that she needs to stop talking about he ex and move on with you.
2007-03-18 23:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If depends on what they want to talk about. I have an old gf that I am very close too. We have known each other our entire lifetime. However I never ever discuss my intimate items with her. Talk to your wife chance are she will tell you that they are friends and thats all. Chances are she is right and they are just buddies.
2007-03-18 23:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has grown complacent. You'd better break that sh@# off yesterday! If there is ANY dispute I would give here a title, ex-wife since it only matches ex-boyfriend.
2007-03-18 23:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋