I came to London 7 years ago just for 3 months. I met somebody and the relationship wasn't easy in the beginning but it is over a year now that we are leaving together. In all this time my parents wanted me to go back to my country but I always had excuses to stay. I do not know why I stayed it seems that I just wanted to be with my boyfriend even the things weren't too good between us. Now we really understand each other and we are happy together but my parents are getting older and they really need me next to them. I feel I want to go back but I do not want to leave my relationship and I also would like to start at Uni, but on the other hand I do not want to disappoint my parents because they really need me now and they know that my life will be much better in my country. There is no way for my boyfriend to go there and my parents to come to London and I cannot cut myself in two so what can I do?
2007-03-18 22:54:48 · 7 answers · asked by Snita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a difficult situation. I would say that your education and thus your future is the most important thing. If you finish uni and get a good job you can help your parents out financially. Is there no other family members to care for your parents? Do not stay just for your bf - men will always let you down and disappoint you. Stay in the UK to get an education. Keep in contact with your parents and do not make knee jerk reactions which may seem to solve the problem in the short term but really offer no longer term resolution.
good luck
2007-03-18 23:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. If I was you then I'd stay put. If you cannot bring your parents closer to you then make sure you visit them as much as possible. It is possible to get cheap plane tickets these days, although that may depend on the country.
Starting at uni would be a good thing too. I know it's hard, but lots of people emigrate far away from their families all the time so you have nothing to feel bad about.
You sound like you are in a good place at the moment with your boyfriend and it doesn't sound like you want to throw that away, so don't.
Why do say that things would be better in your other country? Things could be great for you here too. Going to uni and being in a great relationship are very good things.
2007-03-18 23:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by lollysarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u've stayed in London all this time for him even though things "weren't too good". Maybe its his turn to do something for u. obviously your parents mean a lot to u and he needs to see that.
2007-03-19 02:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by sazzy_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..i have a perfect solution for u....for a month or so u can go and stay with ur parents as they r the one who fulfilled ur each and every dream without hesitating....and now they r old and they need u...and in case of ur bf,u will saty wid him for ur whole life but not with ur parents so i suggest u to go to ur parents for few months and then return back.....
2007-03-18 23:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by natashha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm.. thats hard i feel for u .. but i would suggest that .. u can try and bring ur parents closer to you .... or suggest to ur bf that u have to go and see the for a couple of week ever other month or so... so u keep them happy
2007-03-18 22:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult situation,if your relationship with your partner is so good, surley they would understand your need to go home and give you all the support you need?
2007-03-18 23:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young and chances are that your current relation might not be the last, go to your parents :)
2007-03-18 23:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sahar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋