My divorce will be final in 3 weeks. My ex has been telling me she meet someone and is in love which is fine. The other day I emaild her I wouldnt have any more contact with her but she could call me and say Hi anytime she wanted. She called right away. The day after she insisted I sign our final papers and she would turn them in on the due date. I agreed but told her I would sign only after getting stuff that was agreed would be returned to me. That day she inisted I sign first and I would receive my stuff later. All of this started the day after I quit whinning I wanted her back and let her know I was happy she found someone.. She has now inisted I have stuff that belongs to her, which we both know I dont (She couldnt even describe items) and today we were suppossed to meet to return my stuff and sign the paper. She called to cancel. Its seem she is putting off giving my stuff back because after that she would have no reason to contact me. Anyone have an idea on her behavior?
2007-03-18 22:49:54 · 11 answers · asked by PuckDog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing of real value to anyone, just items that I have had for a while and let her use when we first seperated, that were agreed would be returned to me. We have been ammicable in the divorce and do not have lawyers.
2007-03-18 22:51:27 · update #1
Some women like to keep one foot planted in other ground to be safe. Forget these things as soon as possible. Just let them go and never mention them again. She is just holding on to you until she feels safe with the new guy. Cut your ties with her and find someone else for you. Women are like that. They want the new guy but are sometimes still jealous and cling to the old one.
2007-03-18 23:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "stuff" is not important, sign the papers, and cut off contact. She is trying to hold on to you just in case this other relationship does not work. Let go--Tell her that it is over, and that you would appreciate it if she just made a list of what she thinks you have that belongs to her and you will drop it in the mail along with the divorce papers. If she refuses, tell her that you plan to get attorney, it that is what it takes.
2007-03-19 06:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer as soon as possible. I know the residual feelings have you still loving her, but get over them and be prepared to fight for your independence.
I have a very good idea about her behavior, but, out of courtesy, I won't use the word that comes to mind. Just remember,
Crass Users Never Tell the truth. See the letters, not the words.
2007-03-19 06:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by levitating_dog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you got this all in writing, lawyer or not. It sounds like you will be SOL if you didn't. Maybe you would be best off not worrying about the stuff and get away from this woman as quickly as possible.
2007-03-19 06:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pay her a visit and sign the papers and if the things are of no value to you just let her keep it. Sounds like she wants to keep you pining for her and wants to use your stuff as a way of making you see her. Just let it all go.
2007-03-19 05:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex feels good about herself when you were whinning to get back together. Although she probably was rejecting you, she was at the same time getting reasurement from it. Now that you've stopped, she needs that reasurement, and is finding other avenues to get it. My ex pulled crap similiar, except I wasn't wanting to get back together. She held onto everything i needed, (clothes
2007-03-19 06:07:28
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i think, she loves your stuff or money more than you, your self,!
i hate persons like that, values money more than persons.
get a lawyer and show her that you have the right for your own property.
2007-03-19 05:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by igel manalo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a person that likes to have something to talk about with her people and this gives her something to talk about. It ads drama to their life and they thrive on it.
2007-03-19 05:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by IamwhatIam♥♥♥♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's lawyer time!
2007-03-19 05:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure.. Maybe she just wants your attention?
2007-03-19 05:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nao 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋