I'm living wit my husband's family, his parents and his little sis. She's 20 and her bf often comes over, he always takes my daughter away from my hands without saying anything to me not even say hi. I try to go stay in my bedroom but he still get in and take my 6 mons old away. Yes, I really want my own family but my husband wants to stay wit his family forever. He bought this mobile home, paid off his dad's car, pay for their car insurance, take them to shopping. They're still young, his dad 54 and his mom 46. When he wants to do something he's would afraid his family won't be happy, even his car, his dad have to says yes otherwise he won't get it. I'm willing to do anything for his family as long he agree to start our own family but he always rejects my offer. I;m trying my best bcause of him and my daughter, he told me he can[t live without her.
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2007-03-18 22:11:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK girl if you want this to work, your are going to have to laid some grounds around your marriage, I would be raising hell right about now. and no one and I mean no one would take my child from my arms without asking first, you have to spice up speak your mind and tell your husband I don't mind if you want to buy a gift every now and then for your people but you won't pay their bills or buy cars, he has to think of you and your daughter. And if necessary tell them too, look back off and get jobs. Don't hide in your room, is not going to fix your problems, but it is going to make you very depress. Get mad say something is fun. believe me your hubby would listen if you say something he maybe thinking it don't bother you, because you are not saying anything. Speak up argue a little is my advice. good luck.
2007-03-19 01:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the looks of your user name you must be Vietnamese.
Look you are with a man who places his parents #1 before his spouse, it has happened to me with my ex, you will find that he feels responsible for his family's well being, its part of the asian culture, I don't really think that this can be changed unless your husbands starts to see things from your point of view and actually moves well away from his family home. I find that men like this don't change at all, I was with one for 8 years and I couldn't make him see any different.
Edit: My ex didn't live with his parents, he lived 5 hrs drive away and he was still like that...
Good Luck...
2007-03-19 00:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 05:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by menut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you knew it was going to be like this when you married him. If he told you before you guys got married and you agreed with hopes of changing his mind afterwards...tisk tisk. as for the girl's boyfriend just taking your baby your the mother that you have control over. Tell him no she is your daughter and if you are holding her it's because you wish to. Speak to your husband if he refuses to understand speak with his mother tell her woman to woman how you feel. Have her speak to her son your husband. Though you has his wife are going to start having to put your foot down in things you believe unfair.
2007-03-18 22:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got agut who will never leave the security of mommy and daddy. If you can take it stay and put up with it. Personally, I want a man who puts me and the child first, not a sniveling momma's boy!
2007-03-18 22:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is messing up your marriage.Any of the people who are an authority on this would say this to him.He married you he should leave his mommy and daddy's house be your husband.
2007-03-18 22:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband you want him to get your own apartment for you,your husband and child it doesn't ever work to lIve with in laws ive tryed it
2007-03-22 15:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please add what culture you are from.
2007-03-18 22:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋