sleeping with me?

Question

my daughter wont sleep in her bassinet. shes 4 weeks old. she can be sound a sleep and as soon as i put her in her bed she screams. i dont want her to get used to sleeping with us. any suggestions??

its right beside my bed. i try to stay relaxed cause they say babies can tell when ur tense. i keep the lights dim. i have tried everything and after 3 or 4 hrs i give in.

Answer 1

I have a music box on attached to the bottom of the cot, it plays 3 different tunes, its a fisher price, play the same tune over and over, when shes about to sleep and when you are changing her nappy. It will work, babies like to feel secure and the familiar sound should help her when she is put to sleep.


I see some people have said to let the baby just cry.....
I 100% believe when a baby cries its because its unhappy about something, I have a 9 month old daughter, the moment she cried, I picked her up immediately and have done that every single time ( she is as good as gold) I believe if you pick them up at once, you can put them back down and happy just as quick........ if you leave a baby to cry and cry, in the end you will only have to go and pick it up, you are stressed out, the baby is stressed out and I am positive, you;ll have a hell of a time putting it back down, cause it thinks it wont get picked up again.
They are just being babies, and babies do this, its their way of telling us they are bored or something is wrong.that's why we call them babies

Answer 2

My daughter was the same way. I tried everything, she would not sleep in her crib or bassinett, or anywhere away from me. So I did some reading and found out how to co-sleep with her safely. It can be done safely, you just have to be educated. I know that isn't the solution you're looking for but that's the only thing that would work for us. She's 21 months now and she still sleeps with me ... and the mornings she wakes up before me she wakes me up with little kisses on my face, and laughs when I finally open my eyes. I was nervous at first, but I am now so happy I let her sleep with me! I would have missed so much if I didn't have her there! We're so close, I couldn't imagine putting her in a cold bed all by herself!

Do some reading, I would suggest Dr Sears. Even if you don't want her in your bed he will give you some good tips on how to deal with this - without letting her cry herself to sleep.

Answer 3

Most babies want to sleep cuddled warm and safe next to Mommy. It's how most cultures sleep at night too... with the children snuggled in bed with Mom and Dad. Co-sleeping is actually beneficial to little ones. Wouldn't you rahter be next to your Mommy instead of away from her in the bedside bassinet... or worse a crib in another room? Please do not listen to the people who say to put your baby in her bassinet or crib and let her cry-it-out. That is so unhealthy and destroys the trust that she has for you to meet her needs. The only communication a baby has is it's cry. To ignore the cries of a helpless infant is cruel. These people should have just had dogs if convenience and ease are what they're looking for.

Here are some articles you might want to check out...

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t102200.asp

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/19237/a_factbased_case_against_letting_your.html

Answer 4

All my children did this too. It's so frustrating to have them asleep and wham theire awake for no reason. I had to swaddle them. Sometimes I had to let them go asleep on ther backs on me. Hence there warm and the cold bed don't wake them. I've put them down and rub there backs ar tap there little butts until they claimed down. Car seats worked for two of them. But white noise helped in the baby's room. Most the time when they went to sleep they had background noise of t.v. or radio, then they went to a quite room they woke up. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I never had this problem because my babies always slept with me. There is nothing wrong with letting her sleep with you. You will both sleep better, her being close to mummy and safe and content and you because she is sleeping safe and content.
As long as you are not a drunk or a drug addict then co-sleeping reduces the risk of SIDS because your breathing reminds the baby to breathe and they mimic your sleeping/breathing patterns.
As long as you do it safely then you everything should be fine. You can put baby in a crib or bed when you feel she is ready.

Answer 6

You got it right you dont want her sleeping with you, they get used to it. It'll take some time, be patient. Eventually she will have to sleep.. her little body needs it and cant always fight it. Doctors say dont let the baby cry for longer than 20mins, then scoop them up. As soon as she starts falling asleep, put her in her bassinet. You will prolly have to repeat it til she gets the hang of it. Do you keep her bassinet close to your bed. Talk to her and let her know you're still there in your soothing voice, its a very comforting tool.

Answer 7

There are these bears out there that have the sound of a heart beat in them, made especially for newborns to help them sleep. You can find them at Target and maybe Toyrus. The sound of the heart beat reminds the baby of being in the womb and it is a constant sound that doesn't change. Having our baby sleep in the bed with you can lead to SID's, which can cause death. Good luck!

Answer 8

Ambybaby.com !!!
We got one of these for our little girl & the first night she slept for 7 hrs straight! We found a used one on craigslist.org or ebay. I also have a thing that hangs on her bed that mimics womb sounds & has soothing lights for her to look at. For the first month we would give in too, and she would end up sleeping on my hubby's chest, but like you, we didn't want her sleeping with us...I never slept good with her there, I would worry to much. I've also had friends that have bought a cute teddybear that makes womb sounds & say that it helps.

Answer 9

i think the worst thing about motherhood is the sleeping issue. i have 3 kids, and none of them wanted to sleep for me. just make sure shes fed, burped, changed, keep it real low key during the night, with very low dim lights. i remember sitting up for hours at night with my baby in her/his infant seat and trying to stay awake. dont give her any stimulation during the night. if shes awake, place her in a rocking infant seat...etc...and just sit by her until she gets the idea. i know, easier said than done when youre so tired! get dad involved too.......

Answer 10

All I can tell you is that letting a baby cry it out is extremely emotionally and mentally damaging.
I actually enjoy practicing safe co-sleeping with my children. Done properly, co-sleeping is extremely beneficial to children, who crave closeness.