How do I get my wife to stop going to the bars and come back home to our daughter and me.?

Question

My wife left me about 2 months ago. I wasnt their emotionaly for her. All she dose and for the last 3 months we were together is go party. All I want is my family back. I dont want anyone but her. She is my life all I do is work and come home to my family

Answer 1

It is just the phase she is going through. It will go away on its own, as soon as she gets enough of that.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think you should have a serious discussion about what she is doing, and why she is doing it. Tell her what she is doing might seem right now, but she won't realize what she's going to lose until it's too late.

Tell her this isn't working for you two, and isn't working for the child you two have. Ask her the reason why she is doing so. Does she want to be your wife anymore or she wants a divorce? Clear the whole thing up so that you can at least know where you are standing now, and what you should do to move forward.

If your wife keeps on what she is doing now, I don't think she is the good material for a mother to raise a child on her own. You should get the custody of your daughter.

While this whole things is solved, please make sure your daughter doesn't sense that something is wrong for her to live a healthy life.

If your love to your wife brings you misery only, then I don't think you should hang on to her. Let her go and think about the little girl you have. and hope one day you will find someone who cares about you two.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Well there are a lot of shoulda's and woulda's that u can beat yourself up about. You know that you love this woman and you know the mistakes u made. Women can roam if their not getting what they need at home. We need the attention and love. Being in bars and partying helps u forget what we don't have or what we're not getting. We as people get lost in things like that. Maybe she has an alcohol problem and you need to be there for her now emotionally. Make yourself available to her, but don't be a doormat. Maybe, you might have to let her go if she doesn't want to be with u anymore. Life is all about changes and the more u accept change, the easier it gets. I know it's hard what your going through and believe me you are not alone. Your family needs the mother/wife, but your daughter also needs you. If you can't help your wife, make sure that your daughter does not get passed over by you trying to "fix your wife". Good luck

Answer 5

This is a tough question because it's a dynamic question with many possible answers. But I do hope that someone can help you out if I couldn't give you the answer you needed.

Answer: (1) Take care of your daughter! Be responsible and attentive of her needs before your own. That needed to be said first. (2) Take care of you! Clean yourself up and realize that you’re the better person. (3) People make mistakes and you said your mistake was your lack of emotion towards her. Forgive yourself and realize you can't afford to make the same mistakes. (4) Do things that give you a little ease and happiness each day i.e. fishing, BBQ, Taking care of your daughter, etc...

How will this help you get your wife back? Having her see you better off then when she was there, will make her think twice. Taking care of her daughter will make her realize she is making a mistake. People respect resilience! People respect others who never give up!

Answer 6

You can't control someone else, you can only control yourself. She doesn't soud like she is interested in a relationship with you anymore. All you can do is tell her how you feel (that you want her back, want your family back) and tell her how sorry you are for not being there for her whe she needed you in the past. If she isn't willing to come back the you need to file for divorce and get some child support from her if she's not helping you out now. Then you need to find a babysitter so you can go out and find wife #2.

Answer 7

I think it's a little late for anything like toying with her. I would look for a good divorce attorney and see what you and your daughter can build for your future without your wife.
More than likely she's already found someone in the bar scene if she's been frequenting them as you say, she's gone and you'd better admit that to yourself.

It's time to move on for the sake of your daughter and not stew in the juices left behind by your unforgiving wife that doesn't deserve the benefit of the second chance. Get on with it.

Answer 8

My question is, you know you weren't there for her emotionally, but why? If you knew that, what made you continue to do so? I can see her going out and finding affection, but I'm wondering about her stability to leave her child. After all, she could leave, but try to fight for her daughter. Something wrong here. Someone said she may have an alcohol problem, I think that I tend to agree. I don't think it's a lost cause, but I doubt if it will ever get better without counseling ......
I wish you the best, but maybe it's time to move on.

Answer 9

What you wont and what you get are 2 different things .There's so many of us going through what you are its the signs of the times the only thing i can tell you is be strong and keep your kids safe with you and hold on with any luck God will be here soon but you must stay strong for your family and try not to fall short from Gods grace,s

Answer 10

Sounds like she is emotionally hurt. You need to be patient. Leave her for the time being becos she needs some personal space. Whenever you see an opportunity, speak with her. Let her know how important she is to you and your daughter. Apologise for your past wrongs and ask her to give you a second chance to work on the marriage.

Answer 11

iam so sorry that a mother wants to go to bars and not take care of her daughter.. i have a friend that has 2 daughters and she was like ur wife always at bars at night, she will get drunk and leave with any guy that wanted her, her husband just left her and has custudy of the kids!!! shame shame ..when u want to be a wife and a mom thats not aceptable!! she needs to comit more to you and ur daughter.