ok bout 3-5 months ago me and my gf broke up we was together for almost 4years but i still love and care about her alot and i also miss her why is this, she says she still loves me and cares about me, and i also think about her like everyday all the time plz help me i dont know what to do :(
2007-03-18 20:24:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's natural, you were with her for a very long time. You became attached and grew to love her..just because you broke up doesn't mean the love will just go away. Give it time, you will eventually lose the attachment..You will probably always love her but as time passes it will get easier to live without her.
2007-03-18 20:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you two break up? If you think there's so salvaging your relationship...move on. However, if not, talk things over and get back together. It's totally normal to still have feelings for her not only because you dated for so long but also because you genuinely loved her. Those feelings won't go away for a while. And they will only go away if you make up in your mind that there's no chance of you two getting back together. Decide what you want but don't be ashamed because you care. The fact that she cares may be saying that there's still a chance for the two of you but I don't know the situation..so it's totally up to you
2007-03-18 20:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal if she broke up with you. If so, you got dumped and not really any closure so you're having probs moving on. I'm married now, but have had a few boyfriends in my life and I have learned to move on after a relationship ends. It ends for a reason and it's a great opportunity for you to get one step closer to someone more compatible.
The love you think you feel is not the healthy kind considering what happened. You should cut off all contact with her and move on. You will look back on this relationship and be glad you moved on.
2007-03-18 20:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to care and love about your ex specially having a 4 year old relationship that is something like a hard to thing to do forgetting your day to day companion. if she still loves you, why dont you ask her out again and if something went wrong unto the relationship then, promise her both of you will straighten it up. there's a saying: loves is more special the second time around. And, I agree cus it happened to be i also had same situation as yours. My boyfriend for 4 years we broke up then, we agreed to continue the long lost relationship after few months of courtship and we are now planning for our futures wedding. see that happens.. so, better win her back to your arms, nurture and caress her again. wish you luck!
2007-03-18 20:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the problem with you guys in the west( no offense meant).
i think some times you just break up cuz u can!!!!!!!!!!
really how can you not see u two love each other and care for each other.
what else do you need in a good marriage?
why cant you be married and spend a fulfilling life together than just breakup and go on a wild goose chase for that "someone"??????????
2007-03-18 20:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww. i am sad to hear about this. i think, you will always love her. even when you move on there will be times that you think about her. i am assuming you are young, so for a young person 4 years is alot! don't worry it is totally normal as long as you donot get obsessive. if you are both still in love have you thought about re-connecting? if not, then the only thing i can say is that time heals. God bless!
2007-03-18 20:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Li7078 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey,
u still love and care bout her, cause u were together for 4 years,
and it doesn't take 5 moths to get over her, so its normal ,,
and if u know that she still loves u and cares bout u?
then what are u waiting for?
get together and talk to each other bout ur feelings,
2007-03-18 20:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by emily j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly normal to still care about and even love your ex. there was just something that didnt click all the way and you can still be friends. you will never fully get over the feeling but they will lessen and you will find a love that makes you whole. just be strong and keep looking they are there
2007-03-18 20:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by wlfbelcher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you both love and care for each other,then why split.is it for some silly arguement?do you both feel incompatible?then how did you go on for four years?please for heaven's sake sit down both of you,sort out where all you went wrong,then ,work some rules between yourselves and try once again and be together for life.its not worth spliting.
2007-03-18 20:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why exactly did you break up? Sounds like you're both still not over it. Was the break up a mistake? Should you still be together? Why not ask her and see?
2007-03-18 20:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋