I was just wondering if it is possible that you can really fall inlove with someone and you no what your feeling is wrong but you cant help it, remember lust or sex has got nothing to do with it, its just that this person is so different you can talk for hours without getting offensive of mad at each other, so do you think it could just be an infatuation or can it be the real thing, and both of you feel the same way but also no you can't act on what your feeling?
2007-03-18 20:10:43 · 14 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To befriend, yes, a close friend is fine. But to be your lover, etc.... no. Someone who tears you away from your harmonic situation is not your soul mate.
2007-03-18 20:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Unemployed MBA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your new profound friend are experiencing "tunnel vision". You are married, and you know morally what your feeling is wrong. You need to think long and hard on what your doing. Believe me, the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. It may seem like it, but once you start setting up home with this new person, throw in all the everyday problems, the financial aspects of life, the kids, etc-you pretty much are just changing spouses. You don't even know if you two could live together! And look at the way your talking!!!!!!!Your talking about hurting other people, and wanting to have a relationship with someone you feel good about talking too. How would you feel if this was your wife doing this behind your back? Would you want someone to tell her to go home, and try to talk with you, and maybe seek help? I hope so! A new toy gets old after awhile too.
2007-03-18 20:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its just pure infatuation!!!! Due to some misundertanding with your partner you may feel like that. But believe me that is not the answer. Maximum it'll last just for about one year even if you two get together. After that it'll be sometimes even worst than what you are going through now. Its not worth it dear!!!!
I have seen a friend of mine(a girl) fell for a thing like that and ruined her entire life. Just dont fall for the emotions. If you are married stick to that. Let common sense guide you, not the emotions. Of course you can do some counsilling if you have any marraige issues, but falling for some one else is NOT A SOLUTION. I hope you would make the correct decision!!!!
2007-03-18 20:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you and your wife don't really talk anymore, the communication lines have broken down, you found a person you share some chemistry with, but it's just and overpowering infatuation; caused by lack of it in you relationship. Try talking to your wife the same you way you talk to this woman and see if you two can't open up again.
2007-03-18 20:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You see, you can share the same interests and topics with another person but it should not be considered a soulmate. I know what you mean and it is alright. Then if you fall for the other person, you are wrong already because you are married.
2007-03-18 20:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard work to make a good marriage..I believe you choose who you want to love..if that person is being nice,nice,and your wife is nag ging,naggin..well you can't care for a person that doesn't care about you or love that person. if you want to love your wife she has to want that too. and when you want that..you have no business talking to another woman. so if you don't receive love or affection from your wife is because you don't give any as well. remember treat people just the way you want to be treated.
2007-03-18 20:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, of course it's 'possible' ... but if you are 'really lucky' when you meet your 'soulmate' you'll be SINGLE and then you can 'marry' him/her. I was 'married three times' but was 'single and not even LOOKING for a guy' when I met my 'soulmate' ... we're still 'best friends' but we are also married and 'lovers' and it's TOTALLY WONDERFUL. We will be together 'forever and beyond' because we ARE 'soulmates.'
2007-03-18 20:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess so but what troubles me is that you are married and it sounds like you spend more time with your" soulmate". then the one you are married to.Your wife may have been your soulmate but you don't put the time or effort in her to find out. You should be ashamed.
2007-03-18 20:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could be possible to marry the wrong person & your soulmate be out there somewhere. . . but then agian why did you marry that person in the begaining if you did not feel at once that they are your soulmate??
2007-03-18 20:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, u can feel comfortable with someone that u are not marriad to because there are no strings attached, i u would marry the person it will become just the same
2007-03-18 20:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by vincent vega 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋