Would you leave????

Question

I am 16 and have talked to my bf about if i got pregnant would he leave and he said no. I was wondering if you guys were 16 what would you do if you got your gf pregnant.

Answer 1

no offence but he is 16 make sure he really knows what he is going to get himself into guys say 1 thing and once they get it, it's a different story it's reality. i hope he won't leave and if by chance you guys broke up that he will still be in the babies life!!
i was 16 when i got preggo 17 when i had her my b/f left me when i was 5 months preggo i'm 24 now with a 3 month old daughter :) my 6 yr olds dad has never seen her!
she has a new dad now but it took along time for me to get over my old b/f's empty promise .
no matter your choice always prepare for the worst so your ready for the unexpected!!
good luck hunny i wish you the best :)

Answer 2

When I was 16 I had that discussion with my bf at the time. He told me he wouldn't leave me.... but then I thought I was pregnant and after a week of extreme worry he told me that it would be hard for us to be together, but if I was really pregnant he would take the kid on the weekends "or something".

I think it really depends on the guy. I am 19 now, and my current bf and I had that convo, and he told me that we would do the shotgun wedding and keep the baby. He said he couldn't stand knowing that we aborted his first child or giving it up for adoption.

I honestly can say though, that it really depends on the individual guy and when the situation arises. A lot of guys say they would stay around, but, from looking on YA at young girls who have been in this situation, it isn't often the case.

Answer 3

I had a baby at 16, he stuck around. We now have 3 children together & have been happily married for 12 years. Do not let this fool you, 16 is very young to have a baby, and its very hard to be a mature adult mom, never mind doing it as a teen. At that age the world expects you to fail at parenting, so you have to try twice as hard to do it right. I dont think the question is would the guy leave but would he be a great dad? If he wouldnt be a great dad you shouldnt be taking any chances.

Answer 4

Well, I'm not a guy... but I did get pregnant at 16, only after about 6 months of being with the guy. He's stuck around and we now have a second baby, by choice. We live together common-law.

Answer 5

Wow isn't it funny that such a small amount of guys answered this question? (2 out of 9!!) I'm not surprised because for some reason, women that are older than us (i'll be 16 in May by the way) mostly from the generation before us, just seem to have such a problem with sex. They must be getting this rubbish from the bible or something other. Anyway, to answer your question, i wouldn't leave my girlfriend if i got her pregnant. I'd find every possibility to make it work. I get pretty good grades (A's/ 3.8GPA), so i'm not worried too much about getting a job. Well, that doesn't really matter unless you graduated, but what i mean is, that i'd be able to FIND a way to make enough money for the 3 of us. IF a girl had a boyfriend who was a jock, who didn't do well in school, was an asshole to all his teachers and people who aren't in the "popular crowd", and sports seemed to be the only thing he was good at, she should be more worried about money. If he said, don't worry i'll take care of you, i'd be more than a little skeptical. Also, one of the answers said something about it being the girl's parents decision to keep the baby or not? Well, i think that's outrageous, if she wanted to keep that baby OUR baby i'd support her no matter what. If her parents kick her out of the house and disown her for disobeying them, i'd run away with her. It's my responsibility to take care of my own child! It's not something i might CHOOSE to do, have a child i mean, but if somehow i got her pregnant by mistake, and she wanted to keep it, even if i didn't think i can take care of a baby, i'd still find a way to support us. And some guys might say something along the lines of, "no i wouldn't leave her...IF i loved her enough." That's also outrageous, it'd be my mistake for getting her pregnant in the first place, and that child is half mine! So it's not a question of love, it's responsibility. I'm not saying i wouldn't love my girlfriend. Even if i didn't at first, the baby would keep us together. Love doesn't always have to come first, it can come later. If it were that jock boyfriend i was describing, he probably would refuse to take care of a baby, because most guys like that i've met only think about themselves. That's a good question, and i'm sure you'll get alot of guys lying to make themselves look more "mature" and "responsible." And i also feel sorry for you for having to listen to these dozens of answers from the generation before us saying things like, "you shouldn't be getting pregnant in the first place", "why are you having sex at your age?" blah blah blah. I know that this is just a general curiosity question, not an advice question where you're masking the fact that your boyfriend got you pregnant. Don't listen to that generation, they just can't seem to keep up with the times. They try to make every child in our generation like themselves. We are individual, not mirror images of our parents.

Answer 6

I know for a fact that if my 17 year old son got a girl pregnant, he would do the right thing, because I raised him to be responsible. However, a responsible person is going to use a condom or abstain, right? So you have to assume, that if he got you pregnant, he's not responsible. Therefore, the presumption stands to reason that if he gets you pregnant, he's not going to stick around. Assume the worst, and protect yourself. The pill, the sponge, female condom, something. Anything. Don't just stand there asking, "what if we have an accident?"

Answer 7

and why are you thinking about this?

you are too young to have intercourse, if you insist on it then get on birth control and always use condoms. children are a bigger responsibility than you think they are.

i was still a bit young when i had my daughter at 19....i should have waited till i was more stable and could provide a much better home for her. don't get me wrong i love both of my children but i was a bit young for the responsibility. we have struggled for 7 yrs to provide a great home for her and her brother. but it isn't a great feeling when the only way you can provide for your child is working at mcdonalds and collecting welfare. get an education, become a stable person so that you can provide for a child the best way possible.

Answer 8

Why are you pregnant? If you arent PLEASE PLEASE don't do something like that he is so young and you are to.. You have a long life ahead of you and don't want to have to take care of a baby while your friends are out having good ol times trust me I know I got prego at 19 even tho he is the best thing that has ever happened to me I wish I could of lived life more and had my fun while I could but now I will be spending my 21st Birthday at home taking care of my baby... Just LIVE LIFE! Please be careful and dont do anything stupid.. If you need anyone to talk to Im always here.. IM me. If you'd like.. Im only 20 and I have a 9mth old son. No more thinking about myself anymore just him! IM me sometime hun. :)

Answer 9

me and bf talk about that alot (he's 17 n i'm 15) and he told me that ohe wouldnt leave but he also told me he wanted a baby for his 18th bday n thats in october

Answer 10

He *might* stay - there are good guys out there - but do avoid getting pregnant you're too young.