Would you tell your class you were leaving?

Question

I will be most likely to leave my teaching post at the completion of this term ( 3 weeks time). I have had a rather tough time at work as I have a student that has attatchment issues and is obsessed with me. Should I tell my students I will not be returning? I do not want to be touched ( hugged) by this one child who's mother is a drug addict and likes to sue and assualt those who cross her path.I want to be honest with the other students but this one child who is obssessed with me can also give me a look like he wants to slit my throat. I teach 7 to 8 year olds. Any Advice? Should I just leave quietly? As I will not be returning to the state system and will be working at a private institution in future that does not deal with behavioural students.

This mainly for the "proffesor". The Problem child is nine years old and the whole family is an issue at the school. The administration are aware of the "problem" but probably does not want to be sued by the mother. The deputy has bullied other staff members into submission.It was never my intention to teach at a state school as I had private schooling myself. I have decided not to tell students or parents of my business to go abroad as tomorrow I am getting a visit from a father who thinks he can verbaly abuse me, oh what a delight to teach in a state institution( Sarcastic laugh). Thanks all for your comments and it helped me assess my situation!

Answer 1

You really do not need to tell the students anything. They are not your responsibility after the end of term. Maybe if a few of the students like you and you want to keep in touch with them, you may call their parents and explain why you will not be back.

If you choose not to tell them, don't feel guilty. They won't care in a few days time. They are young.

Answer 2

At the end of any term, some teachers and, indeed, some students don't return.

That said, I don't know that anything needs to be said since none of the students will/would be yours next year anyway. If you feel compelled to say something anyway (against my advice), then the truth is simply that you're moving to teach at a private institution. To be sure, you don't explain *why* to a seven or eight-year old.

What compelling interest do the parents have in your reasons anyway?

OTOH, you've made it sound as if the reason for leaving is your inability to properly handle the one child - a first grader at that. Without going into the details (which probably wouldn't affect the outcome), it sounds suspiciously like you either did not notify your administration, or they failed you. This is a first or perhaps second grader, right?

If you're a decent teacher and you are otherwise in a good place, don't you teach a better lesson by staying and resolving the issue?

My opinion, my advice.

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you are leaving. I am also sorry that your choice has been decided in working in a private institution. We need teachers who have a stronger will to stay in the system. I realize that children with behaviorial problems are very, very difficult and stressful. It is very sad when we loose good teachers. Personally, I would tell the students and then for my own personal satisfaction, I would talk to each student individually, and offer words of encouragement to them. You don't have to 'hug' them, but you can show some kind of affection. I cannot believe that if you taught 7-8 year olds, you didn't get hugged or touched by them. Wouldn't it be odd that your last day none of the kids could 'touch you' or say goodbye. I wouldn't make up a story. Kids are smart and they can see through that too. Especially if that has not been your MO throughout the year. Whatever you did prior to your decision - do that now. I'd give them each a card or some little token just to let them know you cared about each of them. Good luck to you,

Answer 4

I dealt with a similar problem you should tell the kids on the last day of school right before they leave then if you can and this might sound strange but try to block yourself in behind your desk so that they can not hug you or if they try to hug you tell them that you would rather they not hug you because it might make you more upset than you already are over leaving them or something to that effect, so that the other kids don't feel hurt about you not hugging them and no one or two kids are singled out.

Answer 5

Yes, you should tell the students you are leaving, and just as important, if not more-so, explain your reasons to the parents and school administration just in case that parent tries to say you did something. I taught kindergarten and had to quit suddenly and unexpectedly due to my health and a parent started a rumor. It's a shame that as much as we love the children that there are parents like that. I wish you luck and happiness in the future.
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Answer 6

Get out your syllabus. look up the attendance coverage. Is it going to make a difference on your life if the professor provides her consent to bypass away? if so, ask for the absence to be "excused." If no longer, do no longer ask. What might you do if she suggested "No"? so some distance as even if to tell her or to easily bypass, this is going to rely on particularly some issues. between the main severe issues is what it says on the syllabus. If she asks why you're leaving, you ought to tell her the certainty. yet i think of lacking 0.5 of a as quickly as-a-week type to bypass to the airport and %. somebody up is a great mistake. recognize that it rather is a *huge* deal. there may be outcomes to boot to formal outcomes and to boot to lacking out on what happens in college while you're no longer there. (you will might desire to discover that out from a classmate, and classmates are no longer consistently wonderful journalists.) And while you're ill yet another week and could miss the excellent type, then the certainty which you already neglected 0.5 of yet another week might desire to effect on your grade being decreased. i does no longer do it: i might tell my pal he might desire to the two meet me at approximately 8:30 outdoors bags declare or discover somebody else tochronic him. That suggested, i'm hoping that, no matter the way you % to handle this situation, it works out for you.

Answer 7

It doesn't really matter. Do what feels right to you at the time. If I were you, I would send a letter home with the kids on your last day. That way, no rumors but no dealing with emotions. That way the PARENTS can deal with the emotions their kids have about your leaving. (BTW, I've taught grades K-5 for 24 years if that lends credibility.)

Answer 8

Tell your class, it is the best thing otherwise they are going to be left wondering. Ugly rumours might start as to what happened to you, so tell them

Answer 9

i think you should refere this person to a counsilor and not tell them but im sure that the kids will find out on the grape vine anyway

Answer 10

tell ur class in ur last session with..