I kinda want a baby!!!?

Question

I kinda want a baby!!!!!?
I am 16 and have been with my bf for 2 years. We are in a very loving and serious relationship and for some reason I feel like i want a baby sometimes. Please help me to change my mind. Don't worry I am not planning on purposely getting pregnant and I am on the pill.

Answer 1

I am 26 and I have 2 children ages 4 and 7 months. Even now I think of how I should have waited and had time for me. Wait and get the life experience you will NEED to raise your children.

Answer 2

Oh hunny, I know how you feel. I'm 21, very happily married and I have the career I want. Anyways I decided that we should have a baby because I love them, all my friends had them, and it seemed like the next step for us. I'm now 23 weeks pregnant and everyday I have doubts about if this was the right thing to do. I am very excited to be pregnant, but what you don't realise is that when you get pregnant there is noooo turning back. You are so young and you have so much more to experiance before you have a baby. I mean I'm older then you however I'm still quite young and I already feel like I had to grow up alot and the baby isn't even here yet. Your friends treat you differently, you won't get asked to partys anymore, everything you do revolves around the baby. Not to mention having your body change so much so rapidly is very hard to handle. This is the first Summer in my life where I won't even consider putting a bathing suit on. Think about it and wait until you are good and ready and then when you think you are ready wait another few years. It will change your life forever!

Answer 3

I know how you feel. Try babysitting someones kid all day. That helped me a little, when I was your age. Also, maybe you need to cut back on having sex so much. I think that's one thing that get's women all maternal. I read in a kamasutra book that a woman isn't really satisfide untill she's pregnant. So try cutting back on the sex.
You could also try, if you have a job, looking up how much a baby costs for a month and put that money aside for like three or four months to see how much money you won't have to spend on yourself. That could be a good motivator.
Or try getting a puppy. Don't make your parents take care of it, you take on all the responsibilities of raising this puppy . Potty training, obediance,feeding, walking everyday before and after schoo., everything. Then think about how hard that is and multiply it by atleast onehundred, and that's how hard it's going to be with a baby.
Talk to your boyfriend about it too. Chances are he'll say something that will turn you off of the baby craze for a little bit.

Answer 4

"kinda" wanting a baby is not good enough.
I think that you are too young and have not had enough life experience yet to know exactly what you want. You still have school to finish.
I was with my fiance when I was 16 and I thought I wanted a baby with him as well. I am not saying that you and your bf won't last but you need to wait. I never had a child with my ex fiance and was with him from 16 -22. It was the best choice I ever made to not have a child with him.
I am 26 now and pregnant. I have lived my teenage years and had the experiences of my early 20's being able to go out to the bars with friends and never needing a baby sitter.
I am only now mature enough and financially ready to have a child.
If you and him love each other, you can wait to have a baby until you are an adult

Answer 5

Definitely wait to have a baby! You are only 16.. I know you are probably mature and intelligent, etc., and I don't want to sound cliche, but you have a lot to experience. Enjoy the time with your boyfriend and explore new experiences together beyond sex..
Babies are cute and fun, but if you are are responsible mother and put your child first, that baby will become your life. We all deserve loving, caring, and devoted parents.
Have fun, go to school, learn as much as you can, work on what you will do to earn enough money to support a child and make his/her life happy and as comfortable as you can. Not having money and resources to take care of your baby will make it harder for you to be a calm, loving, rational parent.
Maybe it's the hormones that make you feel like having a baby... whatever it is, it's good that you are thinking about things...

There are many aspects to having a baby, and you should consider how a child would change your life. A baby will also change your relationship with your boyfriend, whether you like it or not, and whether it is for the better or worse, you won't know until the baby comes. You become more than boyfriend and girlfriend, you become daddy and mommy to a baby, and you have to work out how you are going to raise that baby. It is stressful on any relationship, but if you and/or your boyfriend are not ready for that responsibility, you will be at each others' throats about it. That is not good for you or the baby....

Good luck... and just have fun being a kid... you're almost done! Enjoy what you share with your boyfriend, too, and don't try to rush things.

Answer 6

PLEASE PLEASE don't get preganet.
Get a puppy...that will fill that void and teach you some serious lessons on family management.

A baby at this point in your life will ruin any personal freedom and college dreams you may have for the future. They are extremely expenisive and you never have a "life" outside of them the minute you get preganat. I would wait another 10 years.

I married a totally different man. The guy I loved and dated at 16 left me and beat up the woman he married at age 20. So that was a blessing to not be with him. LIfe has so many choices. Have faith, get an education, fall in love, court, marry and love each other alone for a few years create a home, and then have children. By that time, maturity will help you see the best way to handle all those tough choices at that time.

Best wishes.

Answer 7

I had my first child at the age of 17. Pregnant at 16. I can not even begin to explain how hard parenthood is. And it's honestly 10 times harder as a teen parent. You have to finish school, but day care is so hard to find that many young mothers are unable to do so. I took a whole year off of school before I happened to find a education with daycare program... which are extremely rare. Oh boy, was that ever fun. I had to go to school all day, not see my baby, then come home to cook, clean and be a mommy. I got to stay up half the night with a sick or over-tired toddler and attempt to do my homework. And that's being one of the lucky ones.
My boyfriend stayed with me, and worked... but without college education it was a struggle to get by. And this was while using cloth diapers, co-sleeping and breastfeeding, which are the cheapest way to have children.
Love is great, but it sure as heck can't pay the rent, and feed three mouths. You don't want to have a child before you get out of school, and ideally have a college education and career.

Answer 8

It's great to have mothering instincts. That speaks well of you.

But let me tell you what it's actually like to have a baby.

It's the hardest job you'll ever have.

You think your algebra teacher is unreasonable?

Try a 3-month old "tyrant" who wakes you up for the 3rd or 4th time and won't go back to sleep -- after having worn you out the day before. It's not unusual to change diapers 10 times a day or more -- day in and day out. And diapers alone add up -- at least 25 cents each. Then there's baby formula and baby food and medical care.

New mothers often find it hard even to squeeze in a shower. And it gets harder as the baby gets more mobile around 12 to 18 months. You physically develop a stronger back and stronger arm muscles, and out of necessity you develop endless patience. What do you when it's 1 a.m. and your baby is in his/her 3rd hour of crying and won't let you put him/her down or go back to sleep, and you have to get up at 6 a.m.? It happens. Also, babies and kids get sick and the most inconvenient times!

As they get older and can move around, they are into everything and you'll quickly discover that your home has thousands of possible hazards in it.

Be a mom someday, please -- even though it's the most difficult and demanding job you'll ever had, it's also the most rewarding one.

But be very careful not to be a mom until you' re in a stable, happy marriage with a decent home in a safe community where you'll feel safe and happy sending your child to school.

Another thing that becomes important when you have kids is a predictable routine and lasting friendships in the community. Maybe you'll end up with the same moms in LaMaze classses, then Mommy and Me, then preschool, and so on. Even if you haven't been to church in 10 years or ever, you may take your kid to expose him/her to religious training adn find that you fall into a pattern of church every Sunday, which suits you and your kids fine because kids love and need a predictable routine.

Once you have kids, your child will become your number one priority, and you'll want to give them the sun, stars and moon. Start laying that foundation now and the rest will take care of itself. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

you want help to change your mind.......i'm glad you ain't planning to get pregnant you are way too young......not that young people can't support a baby or anything but it would be a lot harder on you than it was on me thats for sure...you are still in school right...well you have to think about that...and these min. wage jobs...it's hard to support kids making over min.wage....think how it would be....you are only 16...you have your whole life ahead of you and you need to have fun,and enjoy being only 16 without bills and buying diapers and formula and baby clothes....you need to worrie about finishing school and haveing a good paying job first...you should wait until you can handle it better...i had my 1st daughter when i was 18 almost 19 but still and yes it was still a little hard...but i had graduated highschool...put my college plans on hold and everything...i love my girls and wouldn't change anything...but i just think you need to wait....try takeing care of a family members baby for a week or so you buying everything that baby needs and get the feel of it where you will kinda know what it is like...and that should change your mind for a while...

Answer 10

Ok, you definitely want to wait....it is normal to feel maternal at your age...and maybe babysitting will help you feel needed by children... maybe even apply to be a nanny...that way you can watch a newborn grow into a child...if you were to have a baby your life would change drastically. I love my child enormously but I'm in my 30's and have a 3 yr old....there are so many limitations.... you can't ever leave the child alone...child care is very expensive and eats up much of your money... it is definitely better to wait until you are married, settled in your career, have a house, and a plan for children....