My son is 3weeks old, this is our first baby ( i had to have an emergency c-section because of complications) i am still quiet sore and feel "out of sorts" my fiance cant seem to understand that i am just not in the mood. any suggestions? its only been 3weeks but he says that it feels like 3 months to him. I love him very much and do not want his to become a problem for us.
2007-03-18 19:45:02 · 7 answers · asked by Tasha C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
ok first off tell him that having sex right now would put your health in danger. after a c-section u need to wait the 6-8 weeks. your not even suppose to lift a laundry basket let alone using the muscles for sex. a friend of mine had to have a live in nurse for 8 weeks because the stitches broke from lifting a laundry basket. ive had 2 c-sections and my fiance was on me for both of them, i reminded him of the risk factors. i would also suggest that if u do feel up to it an occasional hand or oral stimulation from you to him can help him to entertain himself with the thought of it for a little while.
2007-03-18 20:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by kazee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It still may be too soon for you to even be having relations.Three weeks is kind of early after a C-section and I'm sure you still need some time to heal .Normally Dr's tell you to wait 6 weeks.If you're really not feeling up to it tell him.Don't feel pressured to do something you may not feel ready for and which could cause complications if your body is not ready.Communication is your best bet and hopefully he'll be mature enough to understand this or else you have bigger problems than his just wanting sex right now and you not being ready.Maybe have your Dr explain to him that you need time to recover and hopefully he'll understand that..Good luck and most of all Congratulation's!:)
2007-03-19 06:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by GoobersLyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dont understand how you feel and he thinks its going to become a problem I would do some soul searching. This should not make him want to cheat and he cant use this as an excuse to cheat. Talk about it and let him know how you feel if he love you he will understand and your body hasnt healed up yet your still open if he dont want another baby now I think he should wait until after your six weeks check up.
2007-03-21 21:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, it's too early. However, playing around is still a viable option, so use your imagination. Hope you get married SOON; why didn't you before baby?????
2007-03-19 08:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grab him in his special place .....look deep into his eyes......ask him ..would you like to push something the size of a football out of an orrafice the size of a golfball.......give his special place an extra tight squeeze...then say.....darling...not if you farted perfume and this thing was dripping in diamonds.......he should then get the message
2007-03-19 02:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by elshadon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are still sore and you would rather not. he has a hand tell him to use it!! good luck hun
2007-03-19 05:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try keeping your legs crossed this time and if that doesn't work tell him hes gotta hand he can use
2007-03-19 02:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Fire Lt. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋