Have any of your friends done crap like this to you?? Why??

Question

Ok. I went out last friday with an old friend of mine, this girl (not f*** buddy, not girlfriend, just a friend, she's engaged anyway). Anyways, we were catching up and talking about things and we got on the topic of past relationships. I've had a couple with some coldhearted women who had problems, not when I first met them though (otherwise I wouldn't have bothered), but after sometime they developed certain issues with themselves.

I did everything in my power to help them but to no avail. I tried everything from being Mr. Nice Guy to putting my foot down and telling them like it is.

Now all this girl 'friend' of mine can do is attempt to give me advice that I didn't even ask her for, we were just making conversation. During her "insight", she says something to the effect that "you can't be a soft guy". I asked her "What makes you think I'm a soft guy?" and she was like "Okay, Steve, lemme ask you, have you ever punched someone before?" I told her "No, but not because I'm a soft guy, I was just never in a situation where I had to fight, that's not my fault though."

Now I know myself, I'm nowhere near a soft guy, maybe I'm a bit more mature than most my age (22), but when I get angry.... I'm not even gonna get into that, forget it, let's just say its something most people don't see often, you know. But what am I supposed to do? Just walk up to someone in the street and start a fight just to prove myself? That's stupid. What's this friend of mine expect?

Several times that night, she kept talking to me as if I didn't break up with the previous person when I mentioned to her EACH time that I did. Then we're talking on the phone the next day, she brings it up again then I told her AGAIN, then shes like "Really? You told me that? Wow then I guess my listening must be off then huh?" 'Cuz see she says one of her best qualities is that she listens and she values it a LOT.

I even write screenplays. We went to see a movie that night, then when we come out she was talking about how good it was and starts questioning my writing "Now, CAN you write as good as that?", she's never read any of my work and my writing is pretty versatile, I've been workshopping it for a few years now. This girl doesn't know as much as I do about screenwriting and the film business and here she is talking like that. Makes me sick.

Why is she like this? At heart, she's a really good person. But those certain things she did/said really got me upset. Anyone gone through some similar B.S. with a friend?

Answer 1

Personally yes i have gone through a lot of crap with friends, but like you said, inside there a really good person, right now i think just keep it cool, keep ur distance a little bit, because believe it or not sometime u get tired of each other. One problem about my friend is she thinks she has me figured out, but im not the type of person that talks about myself in a highly matter or Say i know it all. And she does and it gets on my nerves sometimes because she'll tell you things like "you've never been through that situation before" or "You dont no nothing about that, and i have more experience than u, and u should take my advice" It gets me mad, i dont say anything. Im really mature for my age also, so whats the point with arguing with them about these thing, let them talk. But your friend maybe she means the best in giving you advice. You never know, If you know your right and you know your writing is good, then whats the point in arguing with her, it will just be a continues useless argument and its not worth stressing all of us have friends like this so the best u can do is be tha adult here and let her talk all she wants because thats probably all she's good for anyways.

Answer 2

ahhh, they'll say your in love...