where did my baby go?

Question

I had a miscarriage 2 months ago and I was went through an emergency D&C. I think about my baby everyday.
I've heard that dead babies by miscarriages and abortions are thrown away just like other waste.
I was just wondering if that's true. Even though there are a lot of information everwhere about miscarriage but no information about what happens to my baby after it's been taken out.
I occasionally dream about my babies...and i wonder every day even though it makes me really sad.

Answer 1

First of all, sorry for your loss.

In response to your question, it depends on what actually happened to you and why, and how many weeks pregnant you were.

Normally, in the case of spontaneous miscarriage and a D&C, the contents of the uterus including the embryo/fetus are taken to pathology for testing to assist to determine a cause, and then disposed of according to the general lab protocol.

If a D&C was performed it sounds like you were not very far along.

For miscarriages that occur later in pregnancy where the fetus is more fully formed and is expelled in tact (sorry if that sounds insensitive), then whenever possible and if the family want it, the child is returned to the family for burial.

A miscarriage is something that takes a lot of women a long time to recover from (some never really do) and there are support services out there who will be able to answer your questions - and believe me, your question is VERY common.

Ask your doctor, or call your local area health service and they will be able to put your in touch with people who can help.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

Oh, sweetie, I don't know if anyone can answer this question in a good way. You know that when a woman has a miscarriage, there is a possibility that there was something wrong and thats why the fetus aborted itself. There is nothing that you can do in some cases. I know you miss your baby, and its a terrible thing to have a miscarriage (I've had two). I have no idea what happens in that situation, but your baby was already in Heaven when anything happened. I'm so sorry for your loss. Think about your baby, but don't make yourself sick over it, okay? I hope this comforts you in some way.

Answer 3

My suggestion to you is to go to a family planning office and get some counselling. They can answer your questions accurately and perhaps ease your mind. You don't give enough information here for anyone to accurately answer your question. If you miscarried early in your pregnancy, and you are thinking in terms of a full term baby, your mind is not making the correct association as to what was expelled from your body in the miscarriage. Obviously, and understandably, you are having some lingering emotional stress from this and I feel it would be beneficial for you to talk to someone in person and not depend on Yahoo Answers for information.

Good luck to you, dear. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, and I wish you luck. Things will get better for you, and I hope you take my advice and find someone who can counsel you.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say but unfortunately this is true, they are thrown away or burned in an incinerator(maybe misspelled) depending on the gestation period I'm not trying to be mean but just honest It's normal to think about these things but It's not the end of ur life...remember things happen for a reason ask God to help u get past this so u can go on with ur life and b happy again

Answer 5

I don't have a good answer for you, but i well reassure you that your babies are in the best hands :) I have never had a miscarriage before, but i am pregnant and would like to know the same answer. i wish you the best with you pregnancies in the future :)

Answer 6

I had a fetal demise, much like a miscarrage, And I asked them what would happen to my boys when they removed them, and I was told that they were going to do some tissue samples to find out what happened but then they would be considered waste... but when it comes to waste as far as that goes, they are creamated and then placed away in bio hazzard containers.

I know that is hard to hear, I miss my boys terribly too, and I dont like the fact that i couldnt burry them, but, I know either way they are watching over me every day, and that is what I need to know.

Im terribly sorry for your loss, I hope that you are able to grieve and move on, but never forget them, they are always with you.

Answer 7

Sadly, if the baby is under twenty something weeks, this is true. I know this must be a terrible time for you! I have a 3 yr old and have had a m/c, but did not have a d/c. I will keep you in my prayers....are you going to try again? How far along were you?

Answer 8

Check with your hospital--most hospitals have a contact for a support group for women who miscarry. It's actually much more common than most people realize, since obviously no one wants to talk about such a tragic event. I hope you have other supportive people who are close to you who can help. It's a tough time, but you can survive. If you really feel like you are not improving, please do seek professional help. Best wishes.

Answer 9

I am so sorry about your loss, I honestly don't know what they do with the preborn babies, Just so you know you have the right to ask them, (dr. s or hospital staff), and I would assume that one ask to keep them for burial reasons, if so wanted I mean it is yours, I am sure they have disposed of your baby by now, (sorry) I feel as though this sounds so insensitive, but I'm not trying to sound that way, I hope I was of some help

Answer 10

I am so sorry to hear about your loss sweetie. I'm sorry that I can't answer your question, but I do wish you the best of luck, and best wishes! Atleast the baby is in a better place now. God bless you sweetie.