She cheated with a high school flame after 32 years of marriage. I hate the creep. He's been married 4x and when I talk to her about it she becomes really nasty to me. I can't stand her for what she's done! I hope she doesn't get taken advantage of! I hope I can help my dad. Any advice out there?
2007-03-18 18:45:00 · 6 answers · asked by dania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your Mum is old enough to make these decisions on her own. I am sorry for the way you and your Dad are feeling at the moment. Nobody should ever have to feel that way. Its like a small death. You have all lost something whether it be a wife or a settled household.
You will have to let your Mother go. If she gets hurt, so be it, she has made this decision and will need to deal with the consequences. All I can say is just stick by your father and help each other move along and on with the life.
You are better off without your mother if she has become so selfish and nasty toward you.
2007-03-18 18:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by smile_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the moment, unless you get proof otherwise, consider that He (let's call him ScumGuy) probably seduced Her.
Yes, she could have had some romantic notion in her head that helped her give in, or her hormones kicked in at the wrong time, but you need to give her the benefit of the doubt unless she takes the doubt awaywith further actions.
In pure physical, practical terms, she probably is going through or has gone through menopause, so there's not much danger of having a new baby. It may have been a one-time answer the burning question that's been there for 32 years thing.
If she loves your dad, and he loves her, time and effort on everyone's (except ScumGuy's) part will heal the relationship.
2007-03-19 02:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bruce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just guessing that you dad filed for divorce after he found out about the affair, don't know you didn't say.
The first thing is to let your dad know that you love him. Don't bring up your mom or what she did at all. You both know what happened. If you dad whats to talk about it, he will but don't be hurt it he chooses someone closer to his own age.
The is an excellent opportunity for the two of you to form a good relationship. Do something that your dad enjoys, going fishing, photography, skiing.
Good luck to you both
2007-03-19 11:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember she is your mother and what she does in her life is her choice. By all means be there for you father as she has treated him badly but she hasn't done anything to you so you can't turn your back on her for what she has done to someone else. Your father will be a stronger man then what you think and he will deal with this better then what you think. You always feel let down when your parents aren't the angels you had always wanted them to be.
2007-03-19 02:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your father takes EVERYTHING in the divorce.
2007-03-19 01:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father should crush her.
2007-03-19 01:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Aehn Machena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋